deciding between long time or new hope?

[zachurley]

Hey everyone, I am new to this board so here it goes...I was dating this girl for a long time( LONG TIME) she had minor insecurites with herself and some other things. I never did anything to question her trust for me. I was a great man to her, basically. After so long of fighting based on her insecurites I broke it off with her cause I couldnt handle it. So a couple of weeks pass and I meet this girl, whom is an awesome person. This new girl and I started to date and really like each other. But after a month after seeing this new girl. My old gf is willing to do anything for me. She confessed the love she has for me and how much she'll do anything for me. What do I do? do I try to work things out ( and have security) or do I stay with the new thing ( and hope and risk whats to come)?.Sorry so long but I need to know what to do. :(

[eightball61]

You are with the new girl to start something new. You are not totally over your ex. because if you were then you wouldn't question this. We can't tell you which direction to go in because you need to follow your heart........

My suggestion would be to keep with the new girl and try things out. Your ex. may be begging because she nows you have moved on to try something new. If you decide to continue this relationship with this new girl then will I strongly suggest you cut ties with your ex because she will confuse you and may butt into things to ruin your current relationship.

[SALly]

So did you break things off with your gf hoping she would change and beg for you back?? Or did you break up with her so you could move on because you weren't happy??? That answer will probably answer your question.....

[Rykitten]

You must have seen something in your ex at one time . . . then something changed and she became insecure with herself and the relationship. Were her insecurities the only problem? How did this affect the relationship?

Has your ex shown any changes since you split? Does she seem more secure with herself? How long have you been apart?

[Diablo]

Insecurity is a royal pain in the butt. The new girl may or may not be secure, but you know the story with the ex; which is why she's your ex. You really should decide this on your own, but if I were in your position, I'd go for the new girl.