Ladies, I need your honest opinions here please

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I have a few questions to ask to get a general idea of whether I'm being an idiot and irrational, or my love interest is being irrational and unrealistic...

Imagine... you're having a conversation and you (the female) brings up the subject of beauty in a cozy moment... just generally. And in response to her assertion that beauty is quite rare the man states, "I see beautiful women all the time... but there is always a but... (as in there is usually something that isn't to his standards), but with you sweetheart, there are no buts..." would you:

a) think he is saying that the women he referenced are more beautiful than you?
b) think he is complimenting you highly?
c) think he could have expanded on the features of others he didn't like in detail and then list everything he likes about you?
d) think he's full of it?

If a man says to you:

"Sweetheart, you are so extraordinarily beautiful to me", would you:

a) think it an insult because he's really saying that ONLY he thinks that?
b) take it as a heartfelt expression and a desire to own that opinion?

[Help me]

I have a few questions to ask to get a general idea of whether I'm being an idiot and irrational, or my love interest is being irrational and unrealistic...

Imagine... you're having a conversation and you (the female) brings up the subject of beauty in a cozy moment... just generally. And in response to her assertion that beauty is quite rare the man states, "I see beautiful women all the time... but there is always a but... (as in there is usually something that isn't to his standards), but with you sweetheart, there are no buts..." would you:

a) think he is saying that the women he referenced are more beautiful than you?
b) think he is complimenting you highly?
c) think he could have expanded on the features of others he didn't like in detail and then list everything he likes about you?
d) think he's full of it?

If a man says to you:

"Sweetheart, you are so extraordinarily beautiful to me", would you:

a) think it an insult because he's really saying that ONLY he thinks that?
b) take it as a heartfelt expression and a desire to own that opinion?

No help, eh? While I am still somewhat interested in the answers, it's not all that crucial now, as I have realized why these statements were not well received. I had completely screwed up and through some other statements had cast my love low in her opinion of my opinion of her. I totally missed that one would connect to the other... or maybe I had hoped they would.

It absolutely befuddled me as to how easily a negative statement could wipe away all positive statements, and a positive statement had no affect on a negative one. Unless of course, it was the right positive statement such as; "I know now how badly that hurt you". Even then... that realization should have come much sooner.

So... I'm still kind of interested in the replies, please do so with honesty... thank you.

[blitze1471]

I have a few questions to ask to get a general idea of whether I'm being an idiot and irrational, or my love interest is being irrational and unrealistic...

Imagine... you're having a conversation and you (the female) brings up the subject of beauty in a cozy moment... just generally. And in response to her assertion that beauty is quite rare the man states, "I see beautiful women all the time... but there is always a but... (as in there is usually something that isn't to his standards), but with you sweetheart, there are no buts..." would you:

a) think he is saying that the women he referenced are more beautiful than you?
b) think he is complimenting you highly?
c) think he could have expanded on the features of others he didn't like in detail and then list everything he likes about you?
d) think he's full of it?

If a man says to you:

"Sweetheart, you are so extraordinarily beautiful to me", would you:

a) think it an insult because he's really saying that ONLY he thinks that?
b) take it as a heartfelt expression and a desire to own that opinion?


B and B. I don't see the problem here lol

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B and B. I don't see the problem here lol

Thank you for your response. To be honest, there is more to this than the simple situation I have presented... but I will reveal that after I get a few more responses...

[newmoonmagic]

I have a few questions to ask to get a general idea of whether I'm being an idiot and irrational, or my love interest is being irrational and unrealistic...

Imagine... you're having a conversation and you (the female) brings up the subject of beauty in a cozy moment... just generally. And in response to her assertion that beauty is quite rare the man states, "I see beautiful women all the time... but there is always a but... (as in there is usually something that isn't to his standards), but with you sweetheart, there are no buts..." would you:

a) think he is saying that the women he referenced are more beautiful than you?
b) think he is complimenting you highly?
c) think he could have expanded on the features of others he didn't like in detail and then list everything he likes about you?
d) think he's full of it? I'd think that he complimented me highly. To me it's quite realistic to believe that there are plenty of beautiful women out there and that some of them will be more beutiful then myself in most of what society deems "beautiful." But with the adding of "there are no buts with you." You would make me feel special.

If a man says to you:

"Sweetheart, you are so extraordinarily beautiful to me", would you:

a) think it an insult because he's really saying that ONLY he thinks that?
b) take it as a heartfelt expression and a desire to own that opinion? It's subjective. It would depend entirely on what the dynamic of our relationship was. If you were a casual date partner, then I'd think you were full of .... and trying to sweet talk your way into something. :)
If we were in an established, exclusive relationship of some duration... I'd take it as a heart felt expression and be quite pleased.