Okay... I ned some advice!

[Creek Side]

I am really struggling with this one. So hard since the decision goes against my beat-in-ingrained values. I’ve been spending time with a beautiful young woman. Young! Twenty six (26). I am fifty eight. I KNOW! Please don't yell at me. But we get along and there is this chemistry and she is planning on leaving in two months and has no bf right now. Now I am not accustomed to dating young women... really I am not. This is very unusual.

Now here is the problem... I have not done anything. In fact I have discourage doing anything except meeting, having dinner, or texting or going to the movies, or having lunch, etc... and while we are together I kind of discourage any idea of a relationship beyond what we are presently doing.

BUT... I am going NUTS!!! I would love to get physical with her and I think she has the same desire. I am about to tell her... tonight.

What do you think?

[eightball61]

She is leaving in a few so you have nothing to gain and nothing to lose so why not?

[Creek Side]

Yep. That is a choice. We've talked about it. Things are settled. Thanks.

[eightball61]

whats the outcome?

[Creek Side]

Honestly I don't know yet... I thought I did. I asked her to come and spend the night? She got cautious... said something about boundaries. I thought I pushed her away but tonight I received a few messages that basically said that all is okay. So I think she is reconsidering. Who the hell knows anymore? It seems that no matter what I do I can't get together with a woman to just relax. It is always agenda, agenda, agenda. Just relax dam it and enjoy our time together! NO!!! Must be this or that... So I have decided to just not care and see what unfolds. I'm not going to suggest one thing or another with my young friend. Although i have a suspicion that now that I breached the subject she just may be gathering up the energy to make something happen. I am not holding my breath.

[eightball61]

It seems she values the friendship and you as well but nothing more. She pushed back once because she felt thing were going the wrong direction. Good thing is she is coming back around and most often once the silent is broken its hard to get back what was before. Either way see how it goes but only the friend she wants and thats hard with feelings in the picture.

[Creek Side]

Thank you for the real correct advice and picture. She is a friend... too young for me but wants my listening ear and my tid-bits of wisdom that I always preface with this is just my opinion. She is a great good young woman that was hurt by a piece of shit so I am the nicer version of species. Recently I have just been around when she needs me to be. The idea of any thing beyond the friendship line is off the table.

Truth is I am still reeling from the beat down by my two former female companions that... when I see them now... I feel more pity then aggravation. Went to a Halloween party last night and enjoyed then fun. So I figure in time my ego wounds will well heal and I'll be on track once again.

In the mean time I will remain the bigger brother to Ms. Young and feel better for it. If she initiates something then I don’t honestly know but I doubt that happens. She is a sweetheart. T.

[eightball61]

Being the caring friend is all she probably asks for but like you said if she pulls the move then you she may be ready for more. Good luck ;)

[Creek Side]

Good to receive your response. Yes. Absolutely right. I am being the patient man and feel better for it. Sometimes I think I should have just lied but the truth would have emerged since this is a small town. Hope you are well. Been very busy. Will catch up on the site happenings this weekend. T.

[dexter]

Well you should talk to her and well she`s is to younger for you.. have fun both and thats it.