Should we break up or not?

[JumpInTheFire83]

I've been dating my girlfriend for over a year and a half. And we recently started living together because of university. I thought this could be the end of us due to fights and stuff. But it is the complete opposite...we never fight properly, maybe a few silly arguements! But nothing serious.

Recently I've been feeling that all we do is sit infront of the tv. I never get to see my friends, and she has basically lost all of hers since she started dating me. And its not through fallouts with her friends, she just drifted apart from them because me and her are always together...and it's happening with my friends too! We went through a rough stage 11 months ago when I kissed someone else when I went to London. But we got through it and our relationship was brilliant after.

I feel like I have to babysit her and I can't go out because I think she'll be lonely. And she tells me not to babysit her, and to go see my friends, but I just can't do it! Its not as if she's a bad girlfriend...shes a brilliant girlfriend! I love her, but it's like we're drifting away from everyone together.

I told her all this last night, after a day of her asking me whats wrong (I didn't want to tell her becuase I hate seeing her hurt ever since I kissed that other girl, I hate hurting her because I love her so much). But we both decided to go on a break for a week or two...but i don't know how thats going to work if we live together

Should I break up with her or stay together? I mean I'm only 18 and she's 19...but i do love her!

[eightball61]

The love may be strong but is immature. The sense of love matures as you learn from it and experience it. You made a mistake, you both learn from it, and she excepted you back for it but now insecurities are present and you feel bad when you go out most likely because of what happened before.

Look, you both can make this work together but will take communication, trust, partnership, and maturity. To make or break is your call. You are young with many opportunities ahead.

[smackie9]

In order to have a relationship stand the test of time, you both need a life outside the relationship....this is true even for married couples. Your relationship was so obsessive at the beginning that you neglected friends were being deprived of a life which happens to a lot of young people like yourself. Things like insecurity, guilt, and jealousy are things that we all have to grow out of with maturity ( like the other poster mentioned) through good communication, etc. Since you two are at that stage of going into adulthood, you shouldn't tie yourselves down and explore other opportunities. There is plenty of time years down the road for a serious relationship which may lead to marrige. Enjoy your freedom now :)

[Kirstylou]

Break = trouble, if u found out she did somethin with some one else or visa versa u wud be traumatised! Even if she didn't like it or made u realise u both want each other!

Personally this sounds like a normal relationship, which just needs Working on :)

[John Doe]

As it was said for this to work you each need a life and be able to share it with each other.

I know all people are different but after we got married my ex-wife had no life, I was it. It was not because of anything I did, but I became her life which IMHO is not good. I tried to have a life and my friends and go do stuff (out doors, ATV, Fishing, ect not out partying) which just created tons of problems.

Yes you should both enjoy doing things together but you should both also be able to survive on your own.