hfce354
10-18-2010, 07:20 PM
I am having trust issues with my GF of 18 months. Ill start by saying I believe that she would never cheat on me. Last Wed I visited her Facebook page to look for fresh pictures of us and our kids. While there I noticed her friend list had increased recently, so I checked out her list. I almost immediately noticed a name and a profile picture that struck me as out of place. I texted her as I was doing this making light of finding a new guy on her FB. I joked about how he seemed to be her type, bald and rather tough looking.
It turns out it was an old friend from roughly 15 years ago, late teen, early 20's years. She thought she saw him in a Mall and wanted to know if it was him so SHE reached out to him on FB. They chit chatted, caught up, she told him about her divorce. He apparently asked her about me after seeing my picture. It turns out it wasn't him at the Mall and he lives 1500 miles away now. He told her he is divorced as well. He also let her know he would be in town within the next 2 weeks. SHE asked HIM if he had any plans while he was here. He responded by saying that he had just one engagement and would like to get together if possible.
I am paraphrasing because I never read the messages. My GF told me this much. I must admit to being curious about the full content.
Am I wrong for being suspicious of both parties intentions here? My GF claims that they were just friends and that she is not attracted to him. I find this last part hard to swallow because he fits her stated attraction type. I will repeat that I do not think she would cheat but part of me thinks she just wants to be appreciated by a different guy. That she is courting this meeting for some other reason. I'm confused as hell!
Am I wrong for the red flags going off in my head? Am I just a jealous a-hole? She is so adamant that I am off base and distrustful. I feel really bad for questioning her as well. She has even accused me of going on her FB without her permission. I did not but I don't think she believes me. Would I be wrong to ask to see the emails? This all sTarted out as a joke but now I'm really bothered by her seeing no harm in meeting him. I don't doubt her(at least I keep telling myself that) but I certainly question the male suspect.
I just need to know if my head is so far up my own that I am making a mistake in questioning her. All opinions would be greatly appreciated.
It turns out it was an old friend from roughly 15 years ago, late teen, early 20's years. She thought she saw him in a Mall and wanted to know if it was him so SHE reached out to him on FB. They chit chatted, caught up, she told him about her divorce. He apparently asked her about me after seeing my picture. It turns out it wasn't him at the Mall and he lives 1500 miles away now. He told her he is divorced as well. He also let her know he would be in town within the next 2 weeks. SHE asked HIM if he had any plans while he was here. He responded by saying that he had just one engagement and would like to get together if possible.
I am paraphrasing because I never read the messages. My GF told me this much. I must admit to being curious about the full content.
Am I wrong for being suspicious of both parties intentions here? My GF claims that they were just friends and that she is not attracted to him. I find this last part hard to swallow because he fits her stated attraction type. I will repeat that I do not think she would cheat but part of me thinks she just wants to be appreciated by a different guy. That she is courting this meeting for some other reason. I'm confused as hell!
Am I wrong for the red flags going off in my head? Am I just a jealous a-hole? She is so adamant that I am off base and distrustful. I feel really bad for questioning her as well. She has even accused me of going on her FB without her permission. I did not but I don't think she believes me. Would I be wrong to ask to see the emails? This all sTarted out as a joke but now I'm really bothered by her seeing no harm in meeting him. I don't doubt her(at least I keep telling myself that) but I certainly question the male suspect.
I just need to know if my head is so far up my own that I am making a mistake in questioning her. All opinions would be greatly appreciated.