Working Out The Kinks

[Smith To Be]

met my love online and after visiting twice and tons of proving assurance and that i was true blue and that loving again is possible...not a day went by without a card or letter to him, sent him a pumpkin in the mail for halloween, xmas tree and stocking for xmas made him a cd...the list goes on and on....he finally asked me not to leave...i feel as if i have missed that courting period on his behalf sometimes because we right into living together and had alot of real learning to do do about each other...working out the kinks sometimes is difficult...he has had a wild past (worked on the road for a few years, met lots of "friends") and sometimes i run across things that bother me (letters, pics)...he says they dont mean a thing to him nothing but me so i dont know why i let it get to me...he will even throw it out on his own accord...i believe him so i cant figure out why i get bent out of shape everyone has a past...slowly but surly pics have come down and the house is 'ours' not his...when i say things like its your house he says no its our house...so what is wrong with me....its funny because men can have a draw full of past crap and not even think twice about(plus they hate cleaning) but women take it seriously????

[shelby644644]

Smith to Be
All your posts seem to contradict each other and run off in all different directions.
You have posted in various relationship stages regarding your relationship and in each one it seems you have a different story.
Are you schizophrenic??? :D

You are confusing everyone on here - your story should or could unfold in one thread rather than being splattered all over the place and not making any sense to anyone.

No offence meant! :D

[eightball61]

Smith to Be
All your posts seem to contradict each other and run off in all different directions.
You have posted in various relationship stages regarding your relationship and in each one it seems you have a different story.
Are you schizophrenic??? :D

You are confusing everyone on here - your story should or could unfold in one thread rather than being splattered all over the place and not making any sense to anyone.

No offence meant! :D


^^ I agree


The only I can comment on is that you both need to learn how to work together. If you can't work together then try seeking a professional for help.

[Smith To Be]

maybe so... :eek:
there is so much much going on so fast...most very good and some not hence working out kinks..and get this im planning a wedding and would love to know how many men really want to be invloved the minor details.....lol

[Smith To Be]

well yes, i do feel as if i am dealing with all stages at once vs 1 at a time so yes you are quite observant... :p

[eightball61]

im new here...how is everyone? well i am 31 and i have accepted a proposal of marriage. never thought it would ever happen...i couldnt imagine who would put up with me and i couldnt imagine telling someone my every move...i love him to death and he does me...we met the "NEW" way...on-line...and i have moved 19 hours to be with him and yes it has been tough financially but he keeps me going. it is NOT easy to do what i have done. i have a long past of great and also tramatic stories......if anyone would ever like to chat....my concern is lately we are raising hell about stupid things that we both know are not worth it...i love his family and i think they love me more than him or at least are happy finally someone who is true in his life...especially his 10 year old girl who has taken me in so kindly and hugs and loves me...




Remember this post??? I do

Why is it that you seem over whelmed with all these different stages?

Is it that you may not be ready for a detailed relationship?

Relationships are not an easy task and you can ony put up with so much. You did make a 19 hour move so you are kinda stuck right now because of low cash. The best thing to do is ride it out and see what happens. He won't be perfect nor you'll be perfect. You both just have to find a way to work as a team....this is what a relationship is...

[Smith To Be]

sometimes i think he feels that love will conquer all and i hope it does but in reality is that true

[eightball61]

Maybe hope is all you have so carry hope around and I hope things pan out for you both.

[Rich]

You should go into a marriage knowing that it'll work, instead of hoping that it'll work.

Problems don't typically get worked out by getting married. They get magnified.

Work out whatever concerns or problems that you have now, before you get married.