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julianna
03-12-2004, 08:53 PM
Hi everyone, I have a bit of an issue with my family life. My boyfriend of 6 months got a great job opportunity but has to move to a town 4 hours away. Now, I'm 20 and go to university while still living at home. I asked my parents about moving in with my boyfriend for the summer and getting a job where he's living for the summer and they don't like it at all. They don't believe in living together before marriage and they honestly have a problem with realizing that I am an adult that can think and decide things for myself. I have always been ver responsible and I would like to move in with my boyfriend instead of only being able to see him twice a month. I love him very much and we're planning on getting engaged by the end of the year. I don't know what to do with my parents because this is really going to dissapoint them and I'm afraid of ruining communication with them altogether. They are very firm and stubborn when it comes to what they think is right. But I think its time for them to let me live my own life. I'd still want to be able to live at home during school, but I have recently considered moving out with a few of my friends and getting an apartment in the fall. But I really don't know how to talk to my parents about this and I need some advice. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Ricksta
03-12-2004, 10:14 PM
Personally, I agree with your parents on this one, but regardless of how I feel or how they feel this is your life and only you know how to make the best decisions for yourself. I believe what you have to find here is a compromise. If possible, maybe you could move out on your own to live closer to him.

It is simple really. Either you listen to your parents and follow their rules, either you move in with your boyfriend and disregard those rules or you move out on your own and prove to them that you are capable and independent in your life. There are consequences in every decision we make, but when you find a reasonable compromise, everybody wins, at least most of the time.

Just a suggestion here, but no matter what happens you are going to have to make a tough decision, Julianna and I wish you nothing but the best.