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tiffany41582
05-21-2005, 02:57 AM
my fiance and i have been together for going on 6 years and he has never trusted me. his ex cheated on him with his best friend and he can forgive her and let it go. so now he thinks i am going to do the same. he works night and everynight when he calls he asks if some one is over. or he just accuses me of cheating all the time and i never have. does any one have any advice. please help.
eightball61
05-21-2005, 03:05 AM
He needs professional help.....I don't mean this in a rude way but this isn't something you can fix. I could suggest things for you to do but you shouldn't have to give up your life to make him trust you. What he needs to realize is that we all have a past where we been hurt from time to time. The wrong thing to do is bring it into the future and ruin things. He is ruining the relationship and sooner or latter he will drive you away. You are now at the edge of getting sick of it and there is nothing you can do about it. The change has to come from him and he needs to seek the proper steps for that help but even then sometimes professional help doesn't do it because its all in the mind.
Diablo
05-23-2005, 01:59 AM
I agree with 8ball, he's letting his ex color his relationship with you and there ain't nothin' you can do about it. If you say something, he'll say your objection proves that you have something to hide. This man will make you miserable until you skeedaddle.
Rich
05-23-2005, 04:21 PM
A wedding band won't bring trust.

My recommendation is to not get married to this guy unless you have ultimate trust between you two.

After six years he should have gotten over his last relationship and hurt.

Obviously you guys need a course on what constitutes a great marriage. Right now you're lacking some key ingrediants and I don't view your marriage lasting.

So unless you're looking to get married and then divorced, you really need to address this trust issue as well as the other aspects as well.
Diablo
06-08-2005, 05:01 PM
A course on what constitutes a great marriage? Damn Rich, they can just look up the word "Myth" in the dictionary. J/K.