helpdoug
11-03-2010, 11:38 PM
We cant seem to talk anymore, I'm 47 she is 46. I've been divorced 12 years. Her 4 years. We live together with her 3 kids, 21,18, and 12. My three are out and on there own.
It seems when I have problem and confront her about it. It seems that it is always my fault and my problem and I should not think or feel that way. So Iv give up trying to talk and now that has backfired. Yes I know that wasn't the correct path to go. I'm not sure now what to do anymore.
We just had a discussion that brought up one of the issues and instead of saying well we will work it out together she just said yep it is your problem. There I am back to square one.
I have to have a major overhaul on my head. LOL. I've talked to counselor about this from past experiences and they said its not all my fault it just sometimes does come out of my mouth the correct way what point I'm trying discuss. So that is why I just keep quiet now when I can. I beginning to think it is all me. I've had these problems in the past with other women. Either it is me or it is the women I choose to be with. Or maybe a little bit of both.
Well Now that I started telling her about a few of my trust issues She of course told me that they were all my problem and she couldnt help. So I should not even have brought it up.
And even worse now she is totally believes I dont trust her. Yes there maybe some of that, but I wish she could understand.
Iv now made an appointment with a counselor. I am going to find out if its me, her or the both of us together. She is willing to go. So we will see.
It seems when I have problem and confront her about it. It seems that it is always my fault and my problem and I should not think or feel that way. So Iv give up trying to talk and now that has backfired. Yes I know that wasn't the correct path to go. I'm not sure now what to do anymore.
We just had a discussion that brought up one of the issues and instead of saying well we will work it out together she just said yep it is your problem. There I am back to square one.
I have to have a major overhaul on my head. LOL. I've talked to counselor about this from past experiences and they said its not all my fault it just sometimes does come out of my mouth the correct way what point I'm trying discuss. So that is why I just keep quiet now when I can. I beginning to think it is all me. I've had these problems in the past with other women. Either it is me or it is the women I choose to be with. Or maybe a little bit of both.
Well Now that I started telling her about a few of my trust issues She of course told me that they were all my problem and she couldnt help. So I should not even have brought it up.
And even worse now she is totally believes I dont trust her. Yes there maybe some of that, but I wish she could understand.
Iv now made an appointment with a counselor. I am going to find out if its me, her or the both of us together. She is willing to go. So we will see.