I don't know how I should help my sister...if I should.

[trissy]

So the past...6-9 months or so, my 16 year old sister has been becoming more and more "depressed". Being experienced in psychology and different disorders and personality types, I have pondered what her problem might be. I have begun to worry my sister is showing early signs of Borderline Personality Disorder. She takes every relationship way too seriously (she's had over 10 boyfriends in about 2.5 years) and they all end because she's too clingy or she gets angry over something tiny, etc. And when she's not in a relationship, she feels like the world is meaningless. I've tried telling her that maybe she should tell her mom that she needs help, etc., and that she can feel better if she gets help. But she doesn't want help. I don't see how someone who is feeling suicidal and worthless doesn't want to feel better, and I don't know what to do. And it seems that nothing I say anymore is helping her feel better, even temporarily. What should I do??

[smackie9]

Being emotionally clingy to boy is typical for a girl her age. But if she is having suicidal thoughts, you must go tell your mom. People who are suicidal don't know how to ask for help, so you as her sister need to step in and tell your mother what you have observed and tell her you are very concerned what she might do if she doesn't get help.

[trissy]

i know that it would be best if her mom knew and got my sister help, but im just so afraid that if i break my promise to my sister and tell about her problems and thoughts that she will lose trust in me, and im the only one she trusts. i dont want her to feel like she has absolutely no one to turn to...

[smackie9]

i know that it would be best if her mom knew and got my sister help, but im just so afraid that if i break my promise to my sister and tell about her problems and thoughts that she will lose trust in me, and im the only one she trusts. i dont want her to feel like she has absolutely no one to turn to...

So you rather protect yourself than save the life of your sister? How will you ever live with yourself if they find her dead hanging in her closet? Anyone who talks of suicide should be taken very seriously. This ain't no kids game here...this is real life. If you truly care about her you will do the right thing....