ExWife Sends Pics - How to handle?

[Trinity7]

Both my husband and I are divorced. He has a son with his exwife (she has custody).

The problem is that my husband's exwife usually emails pictures of the SON to my exhusband, friends, and family. Lately, she has been sending pictures JUST OF HERSELF, her new boyfriend, and most recently she sent RATHER REVEALING pictures of herself scantily dressed. And the pictures of the son have stopped.

My husband is outraged and so am I. He doesn't feel he can handle talking to her without fighting (and she does not respond to email.)

I would like to talk to her but I dont know exactly what to say. We only want pictures of the son, NOT HER..And especially not of her racy, inappropriate pictures.

Need help on what to say....how to handle this insane situation.

[eightball61]

"If" you both are disgusted about the emails then you can file for ual harassment after you have told her to stop once. You both need to keep everything documented so you have that on file just in case she ever decided to come back after you both.

Your husband does need to speak up and stop being afraid to face a fight with her. Right now she has custody of his son but those pictures you are getting could be used against her in court if you both decide to go that route. This is something that you both need to work with and come with an agreement on how to approach this situation as adults. Its hard to explain her motives but if her pictures are continueing to get more exploited then it may only get worse.

You and your husband both need to find a way together to stop this.

[Rich]

reply back to the email with the pics of her in a mature, tongue in cheek way.

Simply state that she must have sent these pictures to your email address by mistake. That you know that she must have meant to send these to someone else as you and your husband have no interest in seeing them.

Please kindly check next time ensure that what is being emailed to you is only pictures of the son.

That should do it if it was a mistake.

If she is purposefully doing it, then come right out and tell her to grow up and stop sending these types of pictures. That she is to only send pictures of the son. Be emphatical!

[Trinity7]

Thanks for the replies. Very helpful!

Well, it was addressed. My husband and I discussed it and determined either he or I will talk to her, but she will be spoken to about it.

Husband had a call with his son and then asked to speak to her. First it was determined that she purposely sent the pictures - no accident. Then he asked her to stop sending pictures of herself, espeically inappropriate ones, and to only send pictures of the son.

She claims she sent the racy photos because she was so happy she just lost weight and was finally looking good.... (Grrrrrrrr.)

Anyway, when my husband told her he doens't need to see them, she screamed and cried, accused my husband of 'bullying her.' But she agreed to take him off her group email list - so he won't get pictures of her.

Thanks for the advice. I have to put with her and her antics alot, so I'm sure I'll be back for more.

Thanks again.

[Rich]

Ex-wives are es! :D

Vindictive, petty, cunning, spiteful, childish, immature........Oh, i'm sorry, are you here? I thought that I was talking to myself.

LOL

Yes I have an ex.

[eightball61]

She claims she sent the racy photos because she was so happy she just lost weight and was finally looking good.... (Grrrrrrrr.)

Anyway, when my husband told her he doens't need to see them, she screamed and cried, accused my husband of 'bullying her.' But she agreed to take him off her group email list - so he won't get pictures of her.

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You both have done the appropiate thing and made the situation known to her. You both should still keep record of those emails and conversations. She seems a little psycho and you may need to have these things on file just incase anything ever went to court or charges being pressed.