speedy236ex2
11-30-2010, 08:00 PM
I met my husband 9 years ago and we have been married 6 years now.
My husband is the most wonderful man, but his father and grandfather seems to be a problem! My mother in law is ok and doesnt really cause a problem.
My father in law and grandad have never liked me. I was told from the off by my brother in law. The grandfather doesnt like my sister in law and is very nasty to my mother in law too. He says very nasty things. For example, the grandfather laughed about having ago at my sister in law so much, she ran upstairs and was stabbing her hands with my mother in laws knitting needles. Is this normal?? eerrrhh, i dont think so!!!
It all started when my husband moved in with me. The grandfather hated me and would make nasty cracks about me and my family, who he doesnt know. My husband has a job with a salary of a league one football player. He has the most excellent job but Grandad is displeased as my husband didnt join the RAF and he didnt go to uni, but my husband hasnt needed it.
Grandad became so nasty, when my husband moved in with me and the father in law was pushing for my husband to go and see grandad alone with out me, all the time. My husband is very shy and found it difficult to stand up to them. My husband asked me to marry him and this again displeased the grandfather. We decided to get married and not tell the family We didnt want the grandfather there spoiling our day. We didnt invite the others as we felt my father in law would push to invite grandad if we told them.
There has been a huge arguement over the aunts will also. The aunt died suddenly and her house was meant to be left to my husband and brother but all of a sudden, the will dissapears and grandad is left the lot! Then holding this over my husband.
My husbands last straw was when i had a miscarriage which really cut him up. When i became pregnant again and we went to dinner at my in laws and to show them the scan picture. The grandfather looked at the picture and said the baby looked like a dirty dead rabbit and threw it at my husband.
We went away and didnt speak with the whole family for 3 years.
We started speaking again 2 years ago and my father in law urged my husband to go and see the grandfather and he would give him £50,000 from the aunts house, but when he got there, the grandfather told him he wasnt having any of the money. The brother has had his money and now this has caused a huge rift with my husband and brother in law.
To make things worse, the father in law has the money in his bank and even though the grandfather promised it, father in law wont give him the money until grandad changes his mind!
Two weeks after this, i could see my husband becoming ill and he suddenly collapsed. On the night after, he collapsed and went grey in the face, choking from the throat and had a fit. The ambulance came and helped my husband. The week after, my husband had a break down and stop washing eating and sleeping. He got himself out of it but he has problems every so often and has to go to therapy to help him.
The father will not except that the grandfather has done these things and puts it down to us not hearing him properly, him being old or we take it the wrong way. grandfather does no wrong in father in laws eyes. For example, my father and mother in law had a joint bank account. When Grandad got his money from my husbands aunt, he wanted to put the money into there bank account. The grandfather had my father in law remove my mother in law from there joint account of over 30 years and she had to sign herself off it!! its beggars belief!
My father in law has not been over to our house since september and i believe it because he cant bring grandad and through guilt? I dont know?
My father in law sits with grandad at least 8 hours every day while mother in law works all day! My father in law is also not quite right. He has an opinion on everyone and is really down on anyone thats not his family. He doesnt have any friends and only mixes with family members.
Can i have opinions, advice please? Is it us????? Help
My husband is the most wonderful man, but his father and grandfather seems to be a problem! My mother in law is ok and doesnt really cause a problem.
My father in law and grandad have never liked me. I was told from the off by my brother in law. The grandfather doesnt like my sister in law and is very nasty to my mother in law too. He says very nasty things. For example, the grandfather laughed about having ago at my sister in law so much, she ran upstairs and was stabbing her hands with my mother in laws knitting needles. Is this normal?? eerrrhh, i dont think so!!!
It all started when my husband moved in with me. The grandfather hated me and would make nasty cracks about me and my family, who he doesnt know. My husband has a job with a salary of a league one football player. He has the most excellent job but Grandad is displeased as my husband didnt join the RAF and he didnt go to uni, but my husband hasnt needed it.
Grandad became so nasty, when my husband moved in with me and the father in law was pushing for my husband to go and see grandad alone with out me, all the time. My husband is very shy and found it difficult to stand up to them. My husband asked me to marry him and this again displeased the grandfather. We decided to get married and not tell the family We didnt want the grandfather there spoiling our day. We didnt invite the others as we felt my father in law would push to invite grandad if we told them.
There has been a huge arguement over the aunts will also. The aunt died suddenly and her house was meant to be left to my husband and brother but all of a sudden, the will dissapears and grandad is left the lot! Then holding this over my husband.
My husbands last straw was when i had a miscarriage which really cut him up. When i became pregnant again and we went to dinner at my in laws and to show them the scan picture. The grandfather looked at the picture and said the baby looked like a dirty dead rabbit and threw it at my husband.
We went away and didnt speak with the whole family for 3 years.
We started speaking again 2 years ago and my father in law urged my husband to go and see the grandfather and he would give him £50,000 from the aunts house, but when he got there, the grandfather told him he wasnt having any of the money. The brother has had his money and now this has caused a huge rift with my husband and brother in law.
To make things worse, the father in law has the money in his bank and even though the grandfather promised it, father in law wont give him the money until grandad changes his mind!
Two weeks after this, i could see my husband becoming ill and he suddenly collapsed. On the night after, he collapsed and went grey in the face, choking from the throat and had a fit. The ambulance came and helped my husband. The week after, my husband had a break down and stop washing eating and sleeping. He got himself out of it but he has problems every so often and has to go to therapy to help him.
The father will not except that the grandfather has done these things and puts it down to us not hearing him properly, him being old or we take it the wrong way. grandfather does no wrong in father in laws eyes. For example, my father and mother in law had a joint bank account. When Grandad got his money from my husbands aunt, he wanted to put the money into there bank account. The grandfather had my father in law remove my mother in law from there joint account of over 30 years and she had to sign herself off it!! its beggars belief!
My father in law has not been over to our house since september and i believe it because he cant bring grandad and through guilt? I dont know?
My father in law sits with grandad at least 8 hours every day while mother in law works all day! My father in law is also not quite right. He has an opinion on everyone and is really down on anyone thats not his family. He doesnt have any friends and only mixes with family members.
Can i have opinions, advice please? Is it us????? Help