I need someone's opinion

[BklynGrl]

Hi, everyone....I have been seeing a guy for 3 years now. I am in love with him but I thought he wasnt in love with me so I broke up with him. I regret it so much. He emailed me, and told me, I hurt his feeling cause I doubt he love me, I told him that I was sorry and that i wanted him back he didnt give me an answer. Do you think i should give him time? i emailed him and explain to him that why I did it, I did out of fear. I regret breaking up with him, I love him so much. :(

[eightball61]

You can't take back what happened so now you need to just wait it out to see what happens. You have done as much as you can and now it all lies in his hands on what he wants to do. You will need to give him time to think things through. The worse thing you can do is crowd him so your gonna want to hold back until he comes to you with what he wants.

It's a hard dealing but please keep us posted with any of your thoughts or updates.

Take Care

8ball

[BklynGrl]

Thanks for your advice but what should I do when he emails me should I reply or should I just ignore them til he comes back to me, if he comes back to me. This has been so hard for me I can eat or sleep. Everytime we talk he gives me cold answers... :confused:

[eightball61]

but what should I do when he emails me should I reply or should I just ignore them til he comes back to me,


Your better off not to ignore him but we can only make that decision on replying back to him when he emails you back....

I know its not easy for you but you'll need to hang in there. Your gonna have to be patient for a little while and see what happens. I know you may not feel like it but you'll have to keep your mind active with other thoughts like maybe working on a hobby or going out with friends. There's not much you can do at ths point so you'll need to find a way to accept these conditions and try to move on until he responds.

[BklynGrl]

Alright, I'll do that.....Honestly its hard for me to be his friends when you're love. I thank you so much, I have friends but I don't like to bother them with my problems.

[eightball61]

I have friends but I don't like to bother them with my problems.

"That's what friends are for " ;)

[BklynGrl]

thanks, I hope everything works out with me. Are you from the city (NYC)? I'm just trying to make conversation. :o

[eightball61]

I am actually from Maine but I have been to Boston a few times. Thats the biggest city I have been to :D

I do hope everything goes well and please keep us posted. :)

[BklynGrl]

sure will.....take care..... ;)

[Rich]

IMO I would take stock of why you felt that he didn't love you. Obviously there was a disconnect there in that you had one view and your BF had another. He felt that he does love you and you felt that he didn't. Why was that?

Can you accurately list the reasons why you felt that way? You need to do this in case your BF does come back to you so that those reasons can be addressed and this sort of thing doesn't happen again.

Don't just say that you goofed up and then if he does come back, fall into the same routine. Now's the time to see what you had, to do things differently and hopefully make that relationship better. You had those feelings for a reason.

I say that if you felt that you messed up in breaking things off with him, then GO AFTER HIM. Let him see how badly you want him. What I would not do though, is to just be a doormat and let him feel that by taking you back, that he can just treat you however he wants.

Let him see how much that you love him but don't let him think that he controls you or that he's all that you have.

[BklynGrl]

Honestly I never been in love before. I know everybody shows love in there own different way. But I wanted more. So when he finally told me he love me I freaked out. I got scared.
Now I regret losing him cause I realized he made me happy. I am trying so hard to get him back. I send him several emails but it seems like he doesnt want to be bother. I am so hurt over this, I never meant to hurt him. I just hope he forgives and takes me back.
He invited me to lunch today so hopefully things workout.
Thanks Rich

[eightball61]

I am trying so hard to get him back. I send him several emails but it seems like he doesnt want to be bother.


I know you want him back but as I said before you don't want to over due it. He needs time to think things through and if you keep up calling him, emailing him, ect. he may just get annoyed. Take it slower and only wait for his replies if you try to get in contact with him. If he is not getting back to you there is a reason and that means you need to lay off. He will come to you when he is ready. All you can do right now is wait it off.......

[Rich]

You hurt him and his reaction is typical in that, if you don't want me, then you, I don't want you. As part of human nature I think we all go through that and feel that way sometimes.

If you love each other as you say that you do, then it's my bet that over some time by being away from you, that he'll grow to miss you and what you had and he'll want to get back together again.

All that you can do is admit your mistake and express your love for this guy. If he doesn't want to take you back, then you didn't have what you thought that you had. Learn a lesson from that and find a way to accurately guage the relationship that you're in.

If he only wants to take you back after the summer is over, then don't do it. That will mean that he wanted the freedom to meet girls and screw around this summer, but now that's it's over he'll take you for the winter months just to have someone.

Don't be that sucker.