Rumors

[Spartan803]

I'm in a LDR. My gf will be visiting next weekend. We will be meeting at an annual carnival at my town and plan to spend the whole day there. While we're there, we've decided to take our relationship a little farther and would like to be alone. So I have an empty house at this time and we want to leave the carnival for about an hour to be alone. The past few times we've been alone have been in public places, so my house would be a lot better. The problem is that my gf and I, are worried about people thinking we're going to my house to have or something. Which is not what's going on. We don't want people to get the wrong idea, and we still want to take our relationship farther. How do we do this without people thinking we're going off to have ?

[eightball61]

The problem is that my gf and I, are worried about people thinking we're going to my house to have or something.

If you both are worried about people getting the worng idea then you don't need to brag to them that you are leaving because you have an empty house. If friends ask why you are leaving just simply tell them that she has to leave at a certain time or you have to leave at a certain time.

I don't want to sound like your parent but remember that you are only 15. I know that you don't expect to happen but you can't predict what will happen because hormones can play funny tricks(especially being that young). I am not telling you not to enjoy your time with her but go to the store sometime this week and pick up a pack of s just to be safe.

It's always better to be safe than sorry. ;)

[Spartan803]

Well the problem is we'll both be returning, so we can't say we have to go. Also, we've talked about our plans, and neither of us are ready for . We were both ok with leaving, but when I asked her friend (the one who's house my gf would be staying at), she said it would be a bad idea because people think things and people talk. I'm not bragging when we would leave, I would be pretty discreet about it. But people think we're so cute together and everything and the second we go off their radar they ask her friend where I'm at. I think she could just say we're somewhere around the carnival, but that excuse won't last very long if we stay at my house as long as we intend. By the way eightball, thanks for remembering who I am and all that even though I havent posted on this board for over a month. :)

[eightball61]

So are you going to her friend's house or your house?

If you are going to her friends house I think that would be a bad idea because her friend is welcoming her into her own home as a guest. She needs to respect her friends house if that the case. You both need to find out and make sure that this is ok with the friend.

You also have to understand that no matter what people love gossip. As you are going through life you will see/hear more and more people talking but this is something that you both want to do and take the next step to your relationship. You both just need to agree and go with what you thing is right but be safe also.

[Spartan803]

My house for the record. Her friend doesn't care what we do, she just thinks people would get the wrong idea if we were going to an empty house. I wouldn't be so devoted to this idea if I had chances like this more often, but the only times we're ever alone we're in a public place.

[eightball61]

Then as a friend she should keep quiet if you both ask her too. You both need to go with what you both feel is right and nevermind about others because no matter what people will always gossip....

Goodluck & Remember to be "Safe". :)

[Spartan803]

Thanks. Anyone else have an opinion?

[bdtraders]

My opinion is if you want to go hang out with her alone thn go hang out with her alone. If your friends thinkyou had then correct them and say no we just wanted to be alone. In all honesty it really dosent matter what everyone else thinks, you and her know the truth and thats all that matters, rumors are just that, rumors.

I can tend to be a smart ass with my friends so if it was me and i came back and they were all talking about me and my GF going off alone to have i woud prob laugh back and say thats highly unlikely since im ., or yea we tryed but i couldnt get it up. When people try to start rumors about me i love to feed them andmake them juicy as possible. I know the truth, and in this situation you will know the truth.

Its your life you need to stop worrying what others will think and say (cause they will say somehting regardless, *esample*hes he could have scored with her alone but he didnt want to be alone with her), so quit worrying about your "friends" and do what you want to do with the time you have with her.

in closing just a reminder TRUE FRIENDS DONT SPREAD RUMORS ANYWAY.

[Spartan803]

Thanks bd. I'll think about that.

[Rich]

Dude, people are going to talk no matter what age you are. Whether you're 15, 25, 35 or 45 people just like to gossip. Don't let it bother you. Some people act like kids their whole lives and live to know what's going on in other peoples lives because they have no life.

Go live your life and what other people have to say. Don't live your life afraid of what people might think. You know what you're doing with this girl and that's all that matters.

It's no ones business what you do with her except your parents right now. If you've been a good kid and your parents trust you, than all that you have to say is that you wanted some alone time. That you didn't have with her, but that you wanted to hold hands and kiss. Nothing wrong with that. Be honest.

Your parents will probably be glad to know that you're not and will offer advice on how to be careful. Nothing wrong with this either. It's all a part of growing up. Birds and bees type stuff.

Go off with this girl and if anyone outside of your family asks, you can gently remind them that it's none of their business or you can say that you wanted to not share her with everyone for awhile. Then move on.

Live your life for you and not others. You will never be able to please everyone all the time anyway, so don't bother trying.

Have fun and enjoy each other.