Husband ans his EX

[Vanya]

How appropriate is it for your husband to try and pursue a friendship with an ex? My husband was with a woman for 5 yrs it ended cause she cheated. He tried to remain her friend even though it was humiliating. She was pregnant with the guy who she cheated with child. When he and i started seeing each other there was some bickering betwwen my husband and her's. He was telling alot of private stuff to people about my husband. Stuff he only knew because of the ex. They stopped talking because of that. After awhile she sent an email to my hubby he emailed her back this made me uncomfortable but i endured. when i did tell my husband me issue he backed off and then she found out his work # and started calling him there. I seriously object since then it has been a headache. When i get aggravated about it he backs off. I saw some email in which he even told her that i was probably erasing her emails so call him at work. This is inappropriate. Recently we discussed it and i told him if he could say to her that the manor in which he was talking with her was not good and that in order to have a friendship with her it needed to be out in the open and understood that lines would not be crossed. Well he never told her this but i saw an email in which he gave her our home #. Honesrly i am not comfortable with this at all. I am trying to compromise but i don't see mt husband being able to put the right signals across to this girl. I know she is having problems and i don't want my hubby to be the one to help her. Its not right. i don't even see why he thinks he needs to talk to her at all. I have an ex who i had the same problems with and if it weren't for the fact that we share children i wouldn't talk to him at all. Especially if it was hurting my spouse. I am sure i have jealousy issues but i feel like anyone would have issue with this senario?????????

[GreenEyedLeo197]

If the 2 of them don't have kids, I do not see one reason he should be friends with her. Why would he want to be if she cheated on him? How long were the two of them split up before you two got involved? Were they married, or were they just bf/gf? Unless he still has feelings for her, then there should be no contact needed. He really needs to put himself in your shoes to see how he would feel if you were to do this to him. I am a jealous person, but I think anyone, jealous or not, would be upset about this. If he trully loves you, then he needs to tell her to go be with her man, and have a nice life. http://relationshipforums.com/forums/images/icons/icon8.gif

[Ricksta]

Of course, you don't have jealousy issues, not in this situation anyway. I mean there is no doubt that having friendships is an important part of life, but for him to have a friendship that will compromise his relationship with you is completely inappropriate.

And here is the bottom-line.

The only reason he needs to end this friendship with her is that it is hurting you. If it matters to you, then it should matter to him and that is exactly what having a marriage is all about.

Now don't you ever give in to his excuses because you should be the most important person in the world to him, you hear me? It is important that he treats you like a wife should be treated.

[hotblonde]

ex's should be left in the dusts of the past if a new marriage is to work