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iluvskittles
12-09-2010, 11:09 PM
Ok, so I just really need some advice from people who dont know me... I have a pretty serious anxiety disorder, and it sometimes makes life very difficult. Anyhoo, I'm really sensitive about it, in fact only a few of my friends even know I have it cuz I try to keep it a secret.
Well, I'm trying to shorten this as much as possible, but I can't deal with my mom she did something that's well...kinda crazy.. We got into an argument the other day and she, knowing how sensitive I am about my condition, said to my face "Your thinking is twisted." And she had this almost-smile when she said it like ha! i got u there.. It was really creepy. The fact that my mom of all people would treat me that way.
And not just that, but she constantly does things that she knows are going to upset me.. Ive been noticing it for a long time but I always tell myself no, I'm blowing it out of proportion and whatnot...but my gut keeps telling me she does it on purpose, like shes playing mind games or something.
Once when I was twelve, I was kinda chubby, my mom told me when she was my age she was skinny and just walked off, didnt apologize, nothing. I've never forgotten that.. Done stuff like that my whole life..
This is embarrassing to say, but once she had her friend over and she didnt know I was coming down the hallway and I heard her telling her friend stuff I'd told her in confidence, like really personal stuff I was feeling nervous about... but not in a concerned motherly way, it sounded like they were gossiping about me...

I don't trust her anymore, I'm not exaggerating.. I've been dealing with this for years; most of it's had-to-be-there to understand, but she never sticks up for me, even when I'd been abused (long story) she never helped and she always blames everything on me. Yet whenever I complain to her, she never wants to hear it and somehow it always ends up back on me. She's always done stuff to humiliate me my whole life...how can it all be an accident all the time? I've talked to my sibling about it, and they agree that my mom has done some pretty evil, underhanded stuff..
I'm through denying it- I think my mom is like some emotionally abusive manipulater or something... what am i supposed to do? Go to a therapist? Say 'hey mom, I'm taking you to a shrink cuz Im kinda starting to think your missing a wingnut'... HELP! Any advice? (Sorry for the length)

wind1983
01-23-2011, 01:40 AM
I would definitely see a therapist to talk about these issues. I could be that your mom has some type of emotional disorder. I also have anxiety issues and have told my mom in the past--she denies that I have anything wrong with me.

I deal with things by just letting it go in one ear and out the other. I try not to worry about what my mom says and just know that I have to think positive and not let anything anyone says bother me because in the end it's my life. Maybe try changing your way of thinking.

Also, you could try sitting down with your mom and having a one-on-one conversation, explain how you really feel and keep things calm as you do so. Getting mad at each other won't solve anything.

Hope everything works out~

clytie76
01-29-2011, 02:38 PM
How old are you? Do you live with her? From what you've said, it seems unlikely that she'd be willing to go to a therapist with you. Her behavior does sound hurtful but maybe, somehow, in her mind she thinks she's helping you. Have you ever confronted her to tell her how you feel?