Roomate Romance

[confusedbymen]

A new roomate moved in with me about a month ago. He is smart, kind, handsome, successful, and I really enjoy spending time with him. We have been very flirty, caring for each other, and even sleeping in each others arms at night, almost every night! Over the weekend, we were on vacation, and we had a little too much to drink one night! We had a conversation in which we discussed our feelings for each other, and by the end of the conversation, he made me believe that something had begun b/w us. In this new light, I decided it was ok to be intimate with him. However, the next morning, he acted as if none of it had happend. Did I read him incorrectly? I feel used, taken advantage of, and hurt by someone who I thought was my friend. I don't know if I should ask him about it, ignore it, ask him to move out, or just see how everything unfolds. Please help!!!

[eightball61]

The only way to know his feelings is to ask him again while you both are sober......

[confusedbymen]

Do I tell him that I feel very taken advantage of...and ask him why he would do somthing like that to me? Do you think he said everything to me just so he could get me into bed?

[eightball61]

Do you think he said everything to me just so he could get me into bed?


Your question will be unknown until you ask. If he took advantage to you I doubt he will say anything about that. Your next approach should be finding out what his real feelings are and if he would like to have a relationship with you. His reply then should be the answer to all your questions but you need to ask him first on what he wants.

[Rich]

You need to speak with him and gain clarification on your relationship. During the course of that conversation you can tell him that his actions towards you the morning after make you feel used.

If you're going to be an adult, then act like one. Take control of your situation and ask. Nothing to be afraid of.