Angel86
12-26-2010, 09:43 PM
My fiance and I finally set the date for our wedding which is 6 months away. We had a lot of problems in the past and after 2 years of fighting, we have finally started to do really well together for quite a while now. I feel like there's a lot of jealousy and evil eye in his family because we are a very attractive couple. (he's an athlete, I' m a model) His sister and I became really close while I was having problems with him (he cheated) and now that I took him back and we are doing really well, she has been acting very rude towards me and told me she regrets being my friend and that he'll end up screwing me over again and that she wants nothing to do with me anymore! She has also told me a lot of bad stories about him and his past and I've always kept my mouth shut about it but anything that I've ever said to her about him stressing me out, she went and blabbed to the whole family which only caused more problems between him and I. Even recently on Christmas Eve she acted very rude towards my mother then started a fight with me when I put her in her place. She said I was crazy and that my mom is a weirdo (my moms a little out there but not in a rude way at all) and that she was being nice but I could feel her rude tone of voice and sarcasm I'm not stupid. Other then the fact that I haven't hung out as much with her lately (which is not only my fault because she has distanced herself from me and says that its me that's acting like a ***** since I got back together with her brother) i really don't see what I have done to her. She made me feel like we were best friends for a long time and then opened her mouth about so many secrets I told her! I feel stupid for trusting her but she always tells me I'm an idiot for thinking she would be my friend above being there for her family...but then why would she get so close to me and tell me sooooo much dirt about her family only to turn around and spread my secrets (like the problems I had with her brother and her mom). I have only kept my mouth shut about everything because I don't want any drama with my fiancee. He ALWAYS stands up for his fam (very old school Portuguese) and blames any problems on me! (even tho he's talked **** about his sister and brother too!!!)
He also has two fat, miserable, female cousins, both older than me, that fight for his attention all the time (its sick) and talk **** behind my back....information that I ALSO got from his sister but have never been able to say anything or confront them.Although his sister talks a lot of garbage and gossips about everyone, their attitude towards me is evident so I'm not sure she lied about what they say about me. One of his cousins acts sooo inappropriately! We were living beside her for a while and she would show up at the house alllll the time and my fiance would act so rude towards me and strange when she was around. Now we moved, thank goodness, but I found out a month ago that he lied to me about having a soccer game and that he was actually out salsa dancing with her!! (a friend of mine ran into them) Is that crazy and sick or is it just me??? (plus he knows how much I love salsa and hadn't taken me dancing in a long time!) We went to a wedding together and they danced all night and he ignored me! We got into a fight about it at the end of the night and he said I'm crazy cuz she's family and I have issues. When she heard about our fight she was telling people at the wedding that she was going to kick my ***!!! This is a grown 32 year old woman divorced with child!
Don't even get me started on his mom who acts nice to my face but says **** behind my back. She's been a house wife her entire life with no education and she always comments about why I'm not a good cook or that I should be doing everything for her son and cleaning and baking and blah blah blah When he hears stuff like that it gets to his head and he starts acting like her for a few days! We fight a lot because of it! Lately she has been much nicer to me but I think it's only because he tells her he lwants to marry me so she has started to take him seriously at this point. I know for a fact that even if she decided to treat me like garbage he would always, always take her side.
At this point I'm convinced that his family is two-faced and full of drama but he always says its in my head and I'm the one that causes all the drama so I always have to be careful what I say and keep a smile on my face even tho I'm so angry inside.
Honest advice: Am I doing anything wrong?
Him and I have been doing so good lately but I keep having nightmares of him cheating on me again (hasn't happened since we have been doing good but you never know) or his family destroying our wedding or my life!!! Much drama I haven't even mentioned yet! But just wanted to paint the picture in less than 10 pages
Your advice is much appreciated!
He also has two fat, miserable, female cousins, both older than me, that fight for his attention all the time (its sick) and talk **** behind my back....information that I ALSO got from his sister but have never been able to say anything or confront them.Although his sister talks a lot of garbage and gossips about everyone, their attitude towards me is evident so I'm not sure she lied about what they say about me. One of his cousins acts sooo inappropriately! We were living beside her for a while and she would show up at the house alllll the time and my fiance would act so rude towards me and strange when she was around. Now we moved, thank goodness, but I found out a month ago that he lied to me about having a soccer game and that he was actually out salsa dancing with her!! (a friend of mine ran into them) Is that crazy and sick or is it just me??? (plus he knows how much I love salsa and hadn't taken me dancing in a long time!) We went to a wedding together and they danced all night and he ignored me! We got into a fight about it at the end of the night and he said I'm crazy cuz she's family and I have issues. When she heard about our fight she was telling people at the wedding that she was going to kick my ***!!! This is a grown 32 year old woman divorced with child!
Don't even get me started on his mom who acts nice to my face but says **** behind my back. She's been a house wife her entire life with no education and she always comments about why I'm not a good cook or that I should be doing everything for her son and cleaning and baking and blah blah blah When he hears stuff like that it gets to his head and he starts acting like her for a few days! We fight a lot because of it! Lately she has been much nicer to me but I think it's only because he tells her he lwants to marry me so she has started to take him seriously at this point. I know for a fact that even if she decided to treat me like garbage he would always, always take her side.
At this point I'm convinced that his family is two-faced and full of drama but he always says its in my head and I'm the one that causes all the drama so I always have to be careful what I say and keep a smile on my face even tho I'm so angry inside.
Honest advice: Am I doing anything wrong?
Him and I have been doing so good lately but I keep having nightmares of him cheating on me again (hasn't happened since we have been doing good but you never know) or his family destroying our wedding or my life!!! Much drama I haven't even mentioned yet! But just wanted to paint the picture in less than 10 pages
Your advice is much appreciated!