sacrifice

[Howard]

I was just wondering.When you sacrifice in a relationship with your boyfriend/girlfriend,what exactly should you give up sometimes in order to be with him/her? Thanks. :)

[Diablo]

It depends on how important what you're talking about sacrificing is. An early season football game between nothing teams? Ach, go see her. The Super Bowl? Tell her to come watch the game with you or catch you tomorrow.

[eightball61]

Howard, you need to give us more insight to what it is you want to sacrifice.

Thanks
8ball

[CalistaClap]

I agree Howard. There isn't a right or wrong answer to your question without giving more detail.

If it is something little like giving up eating garlic before you see her (lol), then it's worth it. If it comes into the major issues like friends, etc, the it may not be.

[Rich]

In a perfect relationship no one should have to sacrifice anything. All couples should give their partner the freedom to still be an individual and be understanding of that.

On the flip side of that. When you totally love the person that you're with and their company and happiness is your first priority, then nothing should be considered a scarifice on your part.

If each partner has both of those perspectives firmly in place, then this is not and issue. It's a fine balance.

My wife wants to be with me. I often times want her to go and spend time away from the house and kids to give her a break.

Her happiness and well being is my first priority. Whatever that takes.

[Howard]

Howard, you need to give us more insight to what it is you want to sacrifice.

Thanks
8ball

Ok,I was visiting my friend who lives up in Niskayuna New York(Schnectady)last week and I was talking to Robin on the phone and she wanted me to come and see her the day I came home to New York City but I told her that I'm going to be coming home very late from taking Amtrak for 3 1/2 hours and also taking 2 other trains going straight into Penn Station,I would be back home by a quarter to 6pm but how in the hell would I have been able to go & see her if I came home and I'm so god damn tired from the day,I would've put my suitcase down and take a city bus to go and see her? Forget it! :mad: It never happened so I said that I will see you on Sunday,the usual day we meet.I think she might be self centered! What do you guys think?

[eightball61]

Was she happy that you saw her on Sunday? if so then forget about it because you compromised by seeing her on Sunday. You have to remember that you have a personal life also and you need to see your friends when you only have the weekend to do this kind of stuff.

[Rich]

Maybe she was just missing you and would have been glad to know that you were home safe.

On your part you could have maturely, gently and adulty let her know that you probably were going to be tired from all the travel and that it would be a good chance that when you got home, that you were just going to chill and relax.

She likes you and wanted to see you. You think that's being self centered? On the other hand if this turned into a big fight and she said that if you didn't come over, that you didn't love her, then maybe that's being a bit selfish.

Did you guys fight over it?

[CalistaClap]

Hi Howard. I don't think she was being self centered unless she through a big fit over it.

It sounds to me like she really missed you and was waiting for you to come home so she would get to see you. She was probably just disappointed. Maybe she doesn't understand how tired one can get from traveling all day.

[Howard]

Was she happy that you saw her on Sunday? if so then forget about it because you compromised by seeing her on Sunday. You have to remember that you have a personal life also and you need to see your friends when you only have the weekend to do this kind of stuff.



This was last week before I came home to New York.I haven't seen her and she hasn't seen me in 2 weeks.The 22nd(May),she wound up with a back injury from her work and the 29th(May)I was with my friend up in Niskayuna New York,a day before I came home on the 30th(May:Memorial Day) and she's telling me to come and see her the moment I put down my suitcase and run to see her? :mad: Was she out of her mind? :mad: I'm tired and my mind is like mush so she apologized that evening,the day I came home and we both compromised to both see each other this Sunday(The 5th of June) and that was the end of it.

[Howard]

Maybe she was just missing you and would have been glad to know that you were home safe.

On your part you could have maturely, gently and adulty let her know that you probably were going to be tired from all the travel and that it would be a good chance that when you got home, that you were just going to chill and relax.

She likes you and wanted to see you. You think that's being self centered? On the other hand if this turned into a big fight and she said that if you didn't come over, that you didn't love her, then maybe that's being a bit selfish.

Did you guys fight over it?


No Rich we didn't fight just a slight temper on my part but we both apologized the next day and both of us had agreed to see each other this Sunday. :)

[Howard]

Hi Howard. I don't think she was being self centered unless she through a big fit over it.

It sounds to me like she really missed you and was waiting for you to come home so she would get to see you. She was probably just disappointed. Maybe she doesn't understand how tired one can get from traveling all day.



Well Calista it's possible that she hasn't had a real boyfriend in years.She was telling me about her past that she's had a few but lasted only 2 weeks and was dumped by them but with Her and I,it's been 9 months into the relationship and were both having some deep emotional bonds.I can't wait to see her Sunday cause I bought her a necklace and earring combo at this Hallmark store up in Niskayuna cause I missed her so much. :)

[CalistaClap]

I bet she will be really happy when she sees that you got her something. More because of the fact you thought about her when you were gone...

[Howard]

I bet she will be really happy when she sees that you got her something. More because of the fact you thought about her when you were gone...

She's thinking to herself that whenever I give her presents,she feels bad cause she didn't give me anything in return.This has been happening since February(Valentine's Day)this year and she felt bad that the first time that she didn't get me anything for Valentine's Day in return.