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itsasmallworld
12-28-2010, 08:26 PM
I wouldn't normally post on something like this but I'm in a situation wher I care so much for someone and so desperately want to get this right, here I am. This year I met the woman of my dreams.

I had a huge airport layover and began talking to her parents (she wasn't there at the time) with whom I became good friends, we began the usual conversations about families etc and I was shown a picture of the object of my affections, and ended up talking to her on the phone.

She is 10 years younger than me although very mature for her age, she lives almost 5000 miles away. We've communicated almost daily over the past year, and I've been to see her twice, I had a great time and get on so well with her, her family and friends. I work overseas (sadly still many 1000s miles away) and get lots of time off. Last time I saw her I talked about me spending my time off there and she seemed to really like the idea.

Apart from being the most special beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life, we always send cards and gifts at Birthdays and Christmas etc, like the same things, have the same sense of humour, the same things piss us both off and so on. There isn't anything official between us but I'd love there to be! I LOVE her!! All of my friends and family say that knowing her has been so good for me and I can see it too. She is a truly wonderful and special person and even the bad times seem better just for hearing from her.

She's naturally somewhat shy and I'm totally scared stiff of ruining a great thing by trying to progress this. She means more than the earth to me, she's the first thing I think of when I get up in the morning and the last thing I think of before I fall asleep. I can't even look at another woman without comparing them to her.

I really want nothing more in life than to be with her and to make her happy. Has anyone else been in this situation? How would you handle it? I'd also love to hear advice from girls too.

Thanks in advance,
A guy gazing at the stars in a foreign land.

smackie9
12-31-2010, 05:56 PM
Well stop thinking about you for a sec and find out what she wants. Does she want the same as you? Are any of you willing to move to be together? Have you discussed any future plans with her?

Bacioni
01-16-2011, 05:35 AM
Firstly, you need to tell her all this, but before you do, you must really think about how a long distance relationship will work. Many of them crumble because one party stops working to keep the relationship. Once you have made a plan of how to make this work, tell her how you feel. It can go three ways ways - (a) she can either share the same feelings about your and happily accept, (b) she might say that a long distance relationship is not for her right now, or (c) she might not feel the same way about you.

The one suggestion I have when you tell her how you feel is to not tell her you love her right away. That's only my opinion and you do not have to take it, but having a guy suddenly express all his feelings at once is a lot to digest, especially for a shy girl. An "I love you" on top of all that may send her, especially a shy girl, in overload even if she shares similar feelings for you. However, either way you have to express how you feel no matter how stiff you are if you really want a chance to have something with her.

Best of luck!