Ex and bf...

[Miss G]

I still have feelings for my ex, I was with him for 10 months. I am in a relationship with my current bf (3 months) I dont know why but I keep thinking of my ex and dreaming about him. I like my bf a lot, I really dont want to hurt him because hes a nice guy and has been through hell of a lot but I still feel 4 my ex. I am so lost and confused. :confused:

I spoke to my ex last nite for like two hours, he sed he still loves me and wanted to know how I feel. I kept quiet, n he was like I need to know, do u feel the same? Do u love me? I answered yes :o I feel so bad though because im with anotha guy, i dont want to hurt him. Also I cant tell my ex about my bf, I dnt want to break his heart and if I never spoke to him again, that would break my heart. Then again, I cant tell my bf I have feelings for my ex, thats wrong! My bf knows Im feeling down and upset at the moment but i cant tell him why, hes getting all :mad:

so complicated...pls help... :(

p.s - Reason why i broke up with my ex was because I didnt see him much and due to some other lil probs...

[eightball61]

I spoke to my ex last nite for like two hours, he sed he still loves me and wanted to know how I feel. .


From your last thread, which on of these guys was using you for ?


Either way, it isn't fair to your current Bf that you are discussing these feelings with an ex. I think the best thing for you to do is be fair to your BF and just end the relationship until you are ready to have committed feelings for someone.

[Miss G]

^ yeh my ex is da same guy who I thought was using me, I am goin to my ex's uni is Sept, so I will see him more buh i dont know whether things will change or whether I should take the risk...

[eightball61]

If you do chance it then don't make the mistake in giving yourself up to early again. Tell him that you are going to hold off on the for a while. If he pushes to get it, gets angry, or even inpatient then you know he has not changed. You will not playing a game.....your goal is saving yourself from hurt from this guy again.

Personally, I wouldn't go back to him because you both broke up for a reason. He had his chance and now you have moved on. You are now being unfair to your BF by talking to your ex., so maybe its better off you go back to him and learn life's lesson all over again...... :rolleyes:

[SALly]

Date both of them.....

[Miss G]

so maybe its better off you go back to him and learn life's lesson all over again...... :rolleyes:

I didnt understand what u meant by that? :confused:

[Miss G]

Date both of them.....

Wont that b complicated? N wha happens if dey both find out bout each other?

[eightball61]

I didnt understand what u meant by that? :confused:


You been used once....Why not do it again???

[Miss G]

You been used once....Why not do it again???

okay thanks

Its just even though he used me, I still love him :(

[SALly]

Wont that b complicated? N wha happens if dey both find out bout each other?
Tell them about each other. You don't sound like you are ready to be in a exclusive steady realtionship.

[eightball61]

Its just even though he used me, I still love him :(


Do you think he truelly loves you? It's possible but people who love don't use others. He would have been more caring if he loved you.....This is what I meant when you quoted me. You will not know until you try it out but to me he already had his chance but he screwed up.

Goodluck

[Rich]

You must be young.

Young girls tolerate getting treated like shit and staying. So what is it that you love about him?

The way that he respects you?

The way that he treats you?

The way that you're the only one to him?

The way that he cares about you?

[Miss G]

I just spoke to my ex now on messenger. He was asking me why I am all upset/depressed? I said "im having doubts bout US, I dont think things will work out." Hes asking me why and I said, " just the reasons why we broke up...the arguments and everything. He said 'well if your not even willing too give it a try, forget it. I said..."I love u, i just dont think things will change, they would be the same like before... maybe time will tell...or I need time to think, not sure babes"

He just replied okay :(

My current bf isnt talking to me because I wont tell him why im upset :(

[eightball61]

My current bf isnt talking to me because I wont tell him why im upset :(


Thats why I stated you need to end you current relationship because you are being unfair to him. You need to settle you thoughts and only proceed a relationship when you are ready to be committed to one person.

[Miss G]

You must be young.

Young girls tolerate getting treated like shit and staying. So what is it that you love about him?

The way that he respects you?

The way that he treats you?

The way that you're the only one to him?

The way that he cares about you?

Im 18, both ex and bf are 19

Hes caring, sweet, funny, there for me, cute, his personality is realli nyc :)

[Miss G]

Thats why I stated you need to end you current relationship because you are being unfair to him. You need to settle you thoughts and only proceed to a relationship when you are ready to be committed to one person.

I understand what your saying and your right...