Why the silent treatment?

[Adam456]

At the start of this year my girlfriend and I who weren’t that serious decided to break up, each for our own reasons.

After things had cooled down a bit and we were happily friends again she txt me one night and said that “she missed me and that it was really important to her that we stay friends”. I honestly said that I miss her too. Later that night she txt me again and asked How did I miss her. I was a bit unsure about what she meant by this so I said; I miss her as a close friend. We then decided that we would meet up for coffee when we both got back into town.

However the next day I txted her and said that I missed her and still liked her as a girlfriend. That was a mistake, because I mostly wrote that message to try and find out what she meant. I immediately apologised for saying it. I have apologised two more times since then.

Two weeks later we both left town to start university. It has now been two months since then and she hasn’t replied or tried to contact me at all. We are now in the same city but at different university. I would still like to know her and fix this friendship regardless if we dated again or not.

I can’t fully understand why she is acting like this, everyone’s thoughts and opinions would be much appreciated.

[Rich]

Maybe she doesn't want to lead you on and make it difficult for you knowing that you still have those types of feelings for her, but she doesn't of you. That she'd rather just not contact you.

Or maybe she still has those feeligns for you too, but knows that this time will be difficult with you both away for college and she just doesn't want to deal with it.

I'm sure that she will contact you. Stop contacting her though and let her come to you first. The ball is in her court. Go on with your life right now as if you were totally free and single.

[eightball61]

I would still like to know her and fix this friendship regardless if we dated again or not.



Its sucks not having closure and it seems that you are not going to get it with her. The only way you will know her thoughts is if she was to respond to you and right now that doesn't look to promising.

That "one" night that she said she "missed you" could have been a night where she was either feeling lonely or was having a few drinks. I really hate to put it that way but since that conversation was the only time she has mentiond these feelings, this leads me to believe it could be one of these assumptions.

The only thing that you can do right now is try to move on. I know its hard because those last words are stuck in your thoughts but you need to let it go. She shows no steady signs in wanting a relationship and you need to take that into consideration and just leave things the way they are.