Runaway

[sensitveguy]

The ex gf is 33 and broke up with me a couple of times and once said "the next time I runaway". We were very good friends before we at first and she told me she liked it that way, but we got involved. I dont think she ever wanted to get involved. She does not play games nor is she a tease. She just seems very nervous about being in a relationship.

She has not had a boyfriend in years, but has lots of male friends(just friends) . She is a beutiful woman with an amazing personality and would have no problem getting a date.

We hung out as very good friends for a while and got along great, we always did. We have so much in common that it is hard to avoid one another. She was very comfortable around me almost like my girlfriend again, but even as a friend she still runs away from me. This has happened twice now , well 4 times if you count when she was my gf..Every time a different excuse.She only does it to me and not any other of her male friends.

I have always treated her as only a friend , I have never asked anything from her, but I was still interested in her. I just tried to be nice to her. I have not spoken to her for 3 months . I want to open up lines of communication again , but not sure if I should. The last time we had contact she told me was not going to talk to me anymore and wished me well with future endeveavors.I want to ask her why she runs away constantly.

Any opinions please?

Thanks

[eightball61]

She seems to have some internal issues that she wants to resolve on her own. You can ask her "why" but don't push the issue. Personally, I think what you should do is give her time and space. If she keeps running away or breaking up with you then she is unsure about something and she needs time to figure it out.

[Rich]

Love is a two way street and this doesn't seem that way.

Some people just don't want to get tied down for whatever reasons.

This girl also seems to have some issues with communication. In life you can't always run away. What would happen if you were married and a problem arose? Would she disappear for awhile?

Would you want someone flaky like that as your wife or the mother of your children?

She is who she is and probably always will be. At some point you need to be realistic and ask yourself if she's really worth the effort, time and continual frustration.

There are other women out there. Why go into a relationship with difficulties. They're difficult enough on their own.