How do you know when enough is enough?

[Squish80]

Hello....I need some help. I am deciding if I should leave my bf of 9 years. We have a 2 1/2 yr old together. Our relationship has never been good in my eyes. We are always fighting and i feel that he is verbally and emotionally abusive. he does not help with my daughter AT ALL. He has NEVER gave her a bath. If I have him watch her while I go out (which is hardly ever) he is calling me asking when I'm going to be home. If I'm out running errands he always calls and askes when I'm going to be home so he can spend time with his daughter and when I do get home, he only seems to talk to her on his terms. Example is when there is a commercial then he will play with her. He makes her scratch his back which drives me up the wall. He does not pick up after her and when there is stuff in his way he just kicks it out of his way, instead of picking it up and going and putting it in the toy box. I do all the laundry, housing cleaning, 95% making dinner. He does not treat me the way that I would like to be treat. We do not show effection to each other and it has been probably a over a year since we have kissed. If we do hug each other our daughter starts crying saying NO. If people stop by unannounced he does not get up and say hi or even acknowledge that they are there. Sometimes when he sees his parents pull into the driveway he will go in our bedroom and fall asleep!

If you had to go through this how long would you put up with it? I have a place to go but I do not know how to talk to him about this. Last year I wrote him a two page letter explaining these very same things and I do not see anything has changed. If it helps I am 30 and he is 39!

Thank you for your help!