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Can strategy be used to meet a soul mate or is it just a fate kind of thing? Sound off Im really interested to hear peoples opinions on this subject.
SALly
06-10-2005, 01:44 PM
I don't really know... I think maybe a bit of both. If you like someone, you can use "some" strategy (flirting or something) in a way to get to meet them.... but then it is basically love, communication, hard work, etc. that keep things working. My relationship sucks so I can't really say... Sounds like a question for Rich!!!!!!!!!!!
eightball61
06-10-2005, 02:20 PM
Can strategy be used to meet a soul mate or is it just a fate kind of thing?
Having a strategy on trying to meet new people or where to meet them is not a bad thing. Having a strategy on a partner that you haven't met though is a route that you don't want to take. When you begin a relationship everything is all new and you feel things out to make sure this is something you want. When you enter a relationship with a strategy you are only chancing the relationship failing because you won't allow unexepected things to happen.
You have to remember to be patient, be open with yourself, and analyze what you want in the other potential partner...........
See that is the thing I know what I want!!! And this man in San Diego met everything except one thing
He is not a affectionate person in public!!! But anyways I have sucessful ended that relationship, I seriously doubt he will call me
SALly
06-10-2005, 02:31 PM
See that is the thing I know what I want!!! And this man in San Diego met everything except one thing
He is not a affectionate person in public!!! But anyways I have sucessful ended that relationship, I seriously doubt he will call me
I hope he doesn't!!! For his sake!
I hope he doesn't!!! For his sake!
Lady I don't know you and you need to chill out on the personal attacks you know nothing about me or him for that matter except what I write in here. So if you can not be nice keep it to yourself. As you said in a previous post your relationships is not a bed of roses. I really do not see anything constructive in your latest posts. Just a ugly bitter person. :mad:
SALly
06-10-2005, 02:38 PM
OK- I'll chill--- no problem!
Have a good day!
eightball61
06-10-2005, 02:38 PM
See that is the thing I know what I want!!! And this man in San Diego met everything except one thing
Hunny, You are basing everything on words. You have only met this man for a weekend and have not seen him since. You only had a few days of physical contact with him. Anyone can be very physical when they first meet someone but you don't now how things are in the long-term stand point.
You need to have the experience of full contact before you can make the judgement that he is everything you want. At this time this relationship has proven not to be everything you want since you keep having these problems.
See this is where I disagree, because of the distance we have so much time to talk about our hopes, dreams, fears, and lives. I feel that in a lot of ways the distance has let us get to know each other better.
eightball61
06-10-2005, 03:07 PM
You have a "feeling" for every guy you talk to. What ever happened to "knowing" this is the right person???
You have a "feeling" for every guy you talk to. What ever happened to "knowing" this is the right person???
Hmm because I have a crush on one man and am 1/2 in love with another does not mean I have a feeling for every guy I talk to. Most of my friends are male because of the activities I enjoy!! Such as on line gaming, kayaking, target shooting, paint ball, and riding motorcycles. That does not mean I have a "feeling" for EVERY GUY!!!!
eightball61
06-10-2005, 03:23 PM
Hmm because I have a crush on one man and am 1/2 in love with another does
Your problem is when you meet someone you get to attachted to early. This sets you up to get mad or jealous everytime you "think" something is up when they discuss their personal lives with you. You need to learn how not to get so attached over words.
Diablo
06-10-2005, 08:02 PM
Just to play devil's advocate, you can get to know someone fairly well from a distance because of modern technology; assuming honesty on the part of both. Things have changed a lot since the days of handwritten letters that took a fortnight to deliver. Hope, you should try to get something local because people can hide anything from across the country.
SALly
06-10-2005, 08:15 PM
Just to play devil's advocate, you can get to know someone fairly well from a distance because of modern technology; assuming honesty on the part of both. Things have changed a lot since the days of handwritten letters that took a fortnight to deliver. Hope, you should try to get something local because people can hide anything from across the country.
Yeah that's the scary part. People can seem to be friendly and truthful, but they could have a secret life that you know nothing about. I mentioned that earlier and Hope said she wasn't afraid of that.
SALly
06-10-2005, 08:18 PM
Yeah that's the scary part. People can seem to be friendly and truthful, but they could have a secret life that you know nothing about. I mentioned that earlier and Hope said she wasn't afraid of that.
I do agree with getting to know someone over the internet. I feel like I know some of the users on here pretty well. But I also know it is only to a certain extent. I have a couple people I email with and consider them friends even though I've never met them...but I could never testify to anything they have said... I would hope it is true and I believe it is, but there is always that chance that it isn't.
Howard
06-10-2005, 10:51 PM
What kind of strategies are you referring to Hope? :confused:
Ja122
06-14-2005, 04:54 PM
I think that if you are meant to be with that person, fate will bring you to a certain point. Whether it is somehow being introduced to that person, or just seeing them and having an attraction for them, etc. However, from that point, it's all on you. You have to be the one to move it forward. No one's gonna do all the work for you.
What kind of strategies are you referring to Hope? :confused:
You know the games people play. Im not very good at them because I just call things how I see them.
But being mysterious, coy, flirty, etc.
Those kinds of games.
I agree that fate seems to always bring people together. I am a big believer in following my heart. But attraction and fate are not enough to make a relationship!!
Howard
06-15-2005, 12:24 AM
If It was meant to be,that's a good sign.I've been reading horoscopes(Scorpio-Robin)(Pisces-Me) and I feel that sometimes horoscopes are true and I read them but I know that fate doesn't come from horoscopes,it comes from the heart. :)
SALly
06-15-2005, 01:54 AM
If It was meant to be,that's a good sign.I've been reading horoscopes(Scorpio-Robin)(Pisces-Me) and I feel that sometimes horoscopes are true and I read them but I know that fate doesn't come from horoscopes,it comes from the heart. :)
"Fate doesn't come from a horoscope, it comes from the heart".......that is so sweet Howard.
eightball61
06-15-2005, 02:16 AM
"Fate doesn't come from a horoscope, it comes from the heart".......that is so sweet Howard.
I agree & that was a good one........ :)
Well for me the internet works!
I met my husband over the internet, and even though things went badly for us in our marriage because of both of us. I feel we were soul mates at that point in my life
I met my most recent boyfriend on the internet, and because of the amount of time we spent talking on the phone and internet I am pretty sure up until recently he did not lie to me. Things have changed we do not talk as much nor is he on the internet as much. His career has kicked into overdrive. And the reality of moving to Hawaii and leaving his daughter is a huge priority. I suspect he has taken up again with his friend with benefits and that is fine. I would do the same but I find that friends with benefits does not work for me.
What is even more odd..is my married friend knows my boyfriend and has been my confidant about him for a long time. His opinion is he is a closet homoual because of a few odd things he has done!
= /
eightball61
06-15-2005, 12:28 PM
Well for me the internet works!
If the internet works so well then why are you having so much troubles meeting a guy through it???
Look below at the examples:
I met my husband over the internet
Example 1:
You both are now divorced
I met my most recent boyfriend on the internet
Example 2:
& you came to this website because of your troubles in this relationship.
Don't you see the pattern:rolleyes:
Kind of, I might be divorced but it does not change the fact that my ex husband and I were soul mates. We just made some bad choices that we could not recover from.
Yes meeting men playing a video game is not a good idea that it rarely works.
eightball61
06-15-2005, 01:09 PM
Kind of, I might be divorced but it does not change the fact that my ex husband and I were soul mates. We just made some bad choices that we could not recover from.
The point to my posting is when something doesn't work then you move on. You moved on by getting a divorce but you are still using the net to seek relationships that has proven not to work for you. Typically, when something doesn't work you should move on to try something new.
You are having a hard time trying to see our points. It's your choice on which direction to take from here....
Howard
06-16-2005, 12:41 AM
"Fate doesn't come from a horoscope, it comes from the heart".......that is so sweet Howard.
What people read are false.I just like reading horoscopes because they're just fun to browse.
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