How can I mend my broken heart?

[HopelesRomantic]

I recently ended a 2-year relationship with a man that I truly love. For the majority of our relationship, he has been unemployed. He relocated from the west coast to be with me. While I was flattered, we made an agreement that he would stay with me until he found a job. At first it seemed as though he wasn't trying very hard to find a job, so I started making suggestions to help him out with the process. In time, my "nagging" began to annoy him and arguments ensued. It became constant and his lack of looking for a job angered me. I tried to be patient and gave him a year to get something going. I even supported him financially when he decided to change careers and start his own business in the music industry. Our arguing has gotten to a point of no return. His attitude towards me and life has changed drastically during our relationship and I've done everything I could possibly do to try to make him happy. I even attempted to take him on trips so that he can rest his mind and take a break from the stresses of life. I think everytime I tried harder, he tried less. I feel so bad for him and I wish nothing but the best for him. I've come to realize that you can only help people who help themselves. I know deep in my heart that I had to let him go so that he can find himself again and succeed as a man. It just hurts so much because I hate to sit by the sideline and watch someone that I love fall. Did I make the right choice? Please help.

[Ricksta]

First and foremost, it is vital for you to come to the realisation that you gave him everything you had in the relationship in the best of intentions. You sacrificed so much just to make him happy and that is admirable in every way. I can honestly say that I am inspired with the love you have given and you must not blame yourself for anything because your love is beautiful.

Of course you made the right choice. I have no doubt that you did because no matter how much love you were willing to gave him, your heart matters, too and it is time for you to provide for your own needs first and with that you made your choice. There is no shame in giving to yourself since your needs are extremely important.

All you can do in life is try your best and that was exactly what you did. You tried your best to support him without question and to say he was lucky to have had such a supportive person to bring him up when he was down, both emotionally and physically is an understatement because he was blessed to have an angel like you.

I know your heart is broken right now and I know you are hurting, but the reason you are hurting is because the love you had for him was genuine and when it comes to true love, it is sacred and it will always exist inside your heart.

But like I had mentioned, it is time for you to provide for your own needs because you have to understand that you will survive through tough times, with or without him.

Just look into your own eyes and try to find your heart. Do you see how beautiful you truly are? I have learned throughout the years that in loving a woman you must find beauty, even through her many tears and you have got to do the same thing. You are not merely a young woman with a broken heart because the truth is that you are an incredible young woman with everything to live for and a genuine love that will transcend eternity and nothing will ever be able to deny everything you are, everything have become and everything you will become.

Through your precious heart you have built a beautiful world for the ones around you and it is time for you to believe in yourself once again because you need nobody but yourself to live life with nothing but a smile.

If you ever need to talk to someone, please feel free to write to me through e-mail. I am here for you, all right? You take care now.