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Kateleen
06-21-2005, 08:36 AM
I believe my husband may be having an affair. he has a lot of excuses to leave the house, when I call the office, he's not there, and dosent come home for several hours. How can I find out if this is true of just my thoughts running away with me?
Maryann87
06-21-2005, 08:43 AM
Last year I hired a private investigator to find out what my husband was doing during his lunch hour.It turned out he was meeting the receptionist at a local hotel. Once he saw the video and photo's, it was all over. Now he's just like a kitten oa string! The best money I ever spent,which wasnt as much as I thought it would be. I Called www.cis-protect.com
Goodluck!
eightball61
06-21-2005, 11:39 AM
I believe my husband may be having an affair. he has a lot of excuses to leave the house, when I call the office, he's not there, and dosent come home for several hours. How can I find out if this is true of just my thoughts running away with me?

Maryann87's advice is definitly something to think about. If you have strong reason that he is hiding something then leave. Trust is a major part to a relationship and even if he is not having an affair then you are still not trusting him.

You are stuck in a bind with possible lies & wanting to trust him. All you can do is listen to your heart and make the proper decision it is trying to give you. Leaving him will be hard but he is not giving you any solid leads that he is not doing somehing wrong. I assume that you have have brought this up to him before & since you made it known then I am sure he would have made an adjustment to prove you wrong.......That has yet to happen :rolleyes: .
AlexCrystal
06-21-2005, 04:50 PM
Private investigator. If you can't afford it, find a way to follow him. Check his cell phone, wallet, emails..etc. etc. Be prepared for him to confront you if he finds out you've been snopping PRIOR to you finding solid evidence. But, I think you know deep down that he is. Always trust your gut...it never lies...and it's telling you that he is. But of course, go get the proof you need. Sorry you're having to go through this. How long have you been married?
piratesmate
06-21-2005, 08:54 PM
I have bad feelings about your situation.
I truly believe you have reason to assume something is going on.
Can you follow him or have a friend follow him?
If you can't, are you able to hire an investigator?
Is he on the computer a lot?
If so, I would download a free trial software to spy on his activities (www.download.com) of his online activity.

Also, do you want to know if he is cheating?
What would you do if he was?
Have you confronted him in person about your suspecions?
Are you afraid of him and what he might do to you if you do confront him?

My first husband cheated on me with (who I thought was) my best friend for over 10 years before he got her pregnant with their son.
I had my suspecions and even confronted him and he held me at arms length and looked me in the eyes and swore that he was being faithful to me! hahaha
He was a good liar and truly believed him.
JusLikeCandy1
06-22-2005, 05:26 PM
Forget all this following and investigating. Ask him flat out, "We are you going? Is there anything I need to worry about?" If he answer with what you feel may be a lie............................................
FOLLOW HIS ASS!!!! :D
Kateleen
06-23-2005, 04:57 AM
Thank you all for your input.I was feeling so alone.But,yes,in my heart I know something is going on.I have been married for only 4 years,with a baby girl.I dont want a divorce, but he wont admit anything wrong.If I have pictures or something, he will have to admit it, and maybe he will stop.
I went to that investigator web site www.cis-protect.com (http://www.cis-protect.com) I called, and he works in my city.He's going to start this week.
Thank you all again, its great to have careing people to talk to about this.
eightball61
06-23-2005, 10:09 AM
I dont want a divorce,

I guess all we can do at this point is see what the investigator can come up with. I do hope the truth surfaces from this. I am hoping that we all have jumped the gun on this one but we won't know until we know.

I know you don't want to divorce him but in order to be in a successful relationship you'll have to learn how to trust him again. The marraige will need a lot of patching up after this but we won't know how much damage has been done until the investigation is completed.

I want to wish you luck & please keep us posted.