how to ask gurl out

[joe45]

ok with u guys do u usually make small talk about the course u both are taking togther and then maybe after a while of just being casual aquintances and nothing more-just the girl u see in class and , ask the girl you like out , or do u guys be freinds first with the girl and then ask her out.
the last time i asked a gal out was the first method made small talk and guess what it blew in my face, i asked her out right after our class to go have a cup of coffee with me and she said no maybe anpother time, 3 days later she told everyone in my class-college i got these smirks and smiles -it was embarassing too considereing the college i go to is small. everyone nows everyone-pretty much. and guess what i didn't even say anyhthing ual or unappropriate -jsut cas converstions about her courses she was taking
my freind said i scared the girl off by going too fast and asking the girl out right away, as i should have gotten to now her more first as a person.
any thoughts guys what do u guys do if u like a girl in one of ur classes. funny thing is the same girl had 1 class with me in the previous semester and also in other semesters too was always looking at me , she never went up to me and talked to me. i took the glances and looks as interested motions-yea but then why would she say NO then funny hey.

[eightball61]

Just because you had one bad experience with that other girl doesn't mean this girl will do the same. I would start off with small talk then ask for a phone number or to go out for a coffee. You sense some chemisty there because of the way she looks at you and this is why you should approach her. If you don't approach her then you may lose out of something that could have been good.

So since you have nothing to lose you should give it a try. ;)

[Howard]

I would start off with small talk and small casual conversation.Good Luck Joe. :)

[littlesister]

Just because you had one bad experience with that other girl doesn't mean this girl will do the same. I would start off with small talk then ask for a phone number or to go out for a coffee. You sense some chemisty there because of the way she looks at you and this is why you should approach her. If you don't approach her then you may lose out of something that could have been good.

So since you have nothing to lose you should give it a try. ;)

Naw just say Hey babe ya wanna get lucky. LOL ok please do NOT take my advise. Be your self don't fake ask the girl out. ;)

[Diablo]

What to talk about varies, but there are a couple of things that it's not good to talk about; namely, politics and religion.

As for what to talk about, if you live in a town with a popular football team, you can probably start a conversation with anybody there, just by saying something about the team. News events are also good. Or you could say, "Hey hot thing, wanna f---?" J/K

[littlesister]

What to talk about varies, but there are a couple of things that it's not good to talk about; namely, politics and religion.

As for what to talk about, if you live in a town with a popular football team, you can probably start a conversation with anybody there, just by saying something about the team. News events are also good. Or you could say, "Hey hot thing, wanna f---?" J/K

Now Diablo is that any way to talk?? Ok I probably won't be around much so stay safe y'all!

[Diablo]

But dear, I was only joking. Besides, I have to live up to my name. ;)

[Howard]

Just try not to talk about anything way too personal or that'll scare her.

[littlesister]

But dear, I was only joking. Besides, I have to live up to my name. ;)


:D That's my cyberman/devil.

[Alias]

There's really a number of different ways to look at it. Firstly, simple question, but how do you meet new people, and make new friends? Same applies.

A few things I would take into consideration.. Always try and ask a girl out face to face. This might sound a bit childish, but often enough when you ask someone out over the phone or an instant messenger for example, it can really scream out 'CHICKEN'. So hypothetically, you're sitting down, talking to her - you have some options. You could be cheesy (which surprisingly does still work on a number of occassions); for example by making a bet of some sort, and the loser has to make dinner. You could be straight forward and to the point - and just come out with it.

If she says yes, make sure you have some sort of an idea what to do on a date so you don't stall. If she says no, don't give up hope. Lots of us seem to take rejection like that as a no-hope situation; but just carry on your conversation as if you had never even asked. You could try asking again at a later date, and if it seems she is still too busy or whatever to go out with you - then accept that as a rejection, and move on. You're in college right? You're young and have plenty of time to search and find someone who is right for you!

Good luck with it.

-Alias

[Howard]

As for me,I had trouble talking to Robin when I first met her in October of 2004 and I started with small talk then 6 months later,We both start to pour out our romantic feelings for one another and now we're getting ually involved.

[upstyledown]

well, i wouldnt become to good friends with her, because then she wouldnt wanna loose you in a relationship because it could drop the friendship.