Left For Someone Else, hurts like hell.

[coolguy05]

First off, I just wanna say hey to everyone as I'm new here! So..hi! It's nice to see a good forum like this and realize that I'm not the only person in the world with problems! Haha, anyways, what made me looking for a good forum like this in the first place is some pretty intense heartache I've been feeling lately. I guess I'm looking for some get over girl advice haha, anyways heres my depressing tale. :(

I'm 18, going into college soon, anyways, my long term girlfriend and I, we broke up last April. We were off and on, but ya official break up was in April. Terribly hard. She looked at me and told me she fell out of love with me, that heck, she didn't even like me anymore. She just lost all feelings. "I don't like you anymore, what part of that don't you understand?" my ex gf of 2 years just told me. Not only is she dating someone else, and do I have to see it because we live so close, and on her msn, words of "I like you! so and so and a display picture of him and her and words of care and love of her new boyfriend of just one month, I had to delete and block her, cause I don't wanna see it. I also have to work with this girl, three times a week. Oh quit? Ya I could, but thats means shes won, shes gonan make me quit cause of her? even when he comes to pick her up from work and makes out infront of me? No!! I'm not giving in!

Anyways we cannot even talk because her parents hate me because of a big fight we got into and I covered her in mustard (squirted her with a mustard bottle) ya immature but when your gf just tells you she dosn't like you that way at all and she was your BEST friend and is doin" a new guy of 1 month, sorry but it makes you seem kind of worthless you know!? Anyways becuase we work together I guess it hasn't died down yet, and Bascially I'm still painin. Sorry for the large post, anyways anyone with get over ex advice? or anything? I know relationships are tough, and people here want help with relationship probs, but people trust me, nothing is any worse when you have them tell you they don't like you, thats it, and they go with someone else and seem happier then they ever were with you and your miserable, especially when you have done everything for them, and they throw it in your face. A hint of advice, in a fight with yer gf or bf right now? Call them and even if its not your fault tell them lets just forget about what happened and make up. Nothing is worse then them leaving you and not even likeing you at all as if its meant nothing, for someone who hates you, when you've done nothing at all. It makes no sense!! Anyways, can someone give me some advice!? hahaha thank you again for helping a sad depressed teenager haha.

[eightball61]

hahaha thank you again for helping a sad depressed teenager haha.

You are far from being depressed because in your thread you show a mix of emotions but nothing that justify's depression. What you been through is sad, hurtful, ect. but its not the end of the world. In another thread you told a poster thats in a similar situation "All I can say is man, theres nothing you can do, but keep going" & thats the advice you need to stick for yourself also.

You are going to have mixed feelings about the situation at different times. Some days you may feel sad because you are lonely, some days you may get angry, while other days you are feeling great. As time passes you will have more of great days. The human heart takes time to heal and thats why its so hard to give advice to situations like this.

You have the right idea though & you have seem to be making progress. It's going to be hard with the situations you are in but give it time and you'll be ok.
;)

[JusLikeCandy1]

No one can help you with this. We can't give advice. The most we can do is tell you that you will make it through. You are young and you will be with plenty of girls in the future. And, this will all be a distant memory, before you know it.

[Diablo]

What you need to do is find things to do to get your mind off of life's bs and her. It can be any positive thing that you enjoy.

[coolguy05]

hey everyone! omg its so nice to have such nice people reply! haha! ya i guess all i can do i go on.. it just hurts so much. i feel like what we had meant nothing. i worked today, and we didn't say a word to each other. eightbal, what you said about me feeling lonley, then angry, then great, its EXACTLY how i feel man. some nights i'll be lonley, while the next morning i'll feel good, while later in the day i'll think of something or something well remind of her and him and i'll get extremly angry! its just she WAS my best friend, like my BEST buddy, and she lives so close to me, like i can almost throw a rock from my house and hit hers! (not really but almost haha) yet i talk to her not at all anymore. i just don't understand how she can do this!! haha i wish i could actually view the world from her eyes and just understand why shes doing this, its like shes oblivious to my pain! hahaha i'm OK.. but definitly been 100 times better! ya i'm trying to keep busy with friends and hobbies, its all i can do! haha. thanks to everyone who took the time to reply, you guys have no clue how much i appreciate it. ah today was another day, and tomorrow is another one! thanks again everyone!

[Chiky]

Darling, u should forget her!!! www.LTP-Dating.com
here u'll find a real understanding girl

[eightball61]

ah today was another day, and tomorrow is another one! t

Exactly........All you can do is take it day by day and allow itself to work out in your system. Sooner or latter you'll be back up & ready to go. Your welcome & I wish you luck
:)

[littlesister]

First off, I just wanna say hey to everyone as I'm new here! So..hi! It's nice to see a good forum like this and realize that I'm not the only person in the world with problems! Haha, anyways, what made me looking for a good forum like this in the first place is some pretty intense heartache I've been feeling lately. I guess I'm looking for some get over girl advice haha, anyways heres my depressing tale. :(

I'm 18, going into college soon, anyways, my long term girlfriend and I, we broke up last April. We were off and on, but ya official break up was in April. Terribly hard. She looked at me and told me she fell out of love with me, that heck, she didn't even like me anymore. She just lost all feelings. "I don't like you anymore, what part of that don't you understand?" my ex gf of 2 years just told me. Not only is she dating someone else, and do I have to see it because we live so close, and on her msn, words of "I like you! so and so and a display picture of him and her and words of care and love of her new boyfriend of just one month, I had to delete and block her, cause I don't wanna see it. I also have to work with this girl, three times a week. Oh quit? Ya I could, but thats means shes won, shes gonan make me quit cause of her? even when he comes to pick her up from work and makes out infront of me? No!! I'm not giving in!

Anyways we cannot even talk because her parents hate me because of a big fight we got into and I covered her in mustard (squirted her with a mustard bottle) ya immature but when your gf just tells you she dosn't like you that way at all and she was your BEST friend and is doin" a new guy of 1 month, sorry but it makes you seem kind of worthless you know!? Anyways becuase we work together I guess it hasn't died down yet, and Bascially I'm still painin. Sorry for the large post, anyways anyone with get over ex advice? or anything? I know relationships are tough, and people here want help with relationship probs, but people trust me, nothing is any worse when you have them tell you they don't like you, thats it, and they go with someone else and seem happier then they ever were with you and your miserable, especially when you have done everything for them, and they throw it in your face. A hint of advice, in a fight with yer gf or bf right now? Call them and even if its not your fault tell them lets just forget about what happened and make up. Nothing is worse then them leaving you and not even likeing you at all as if its meant nothing, for someone who hates you, when you've done nothing at all. It makes no sense!! Anyways, can someone give me some advice!? hahaha thank you again for helping a sad depressed teenager haha.


First off the mustard thing, if someone did that to my daughter I would laugh ;) I am sorry your going through this. I remember my first love we went out all through highschool. He was 4 yrs older then me so he was not in school....

I remember how hard it was, he went out on me with girls I knew, he said he loved me...but anyway I remember the pain when I broke up with him. It gets better, but do what you have to so she won't be in your face all the time.

I actually started hanging out with a totally different crowd after I broke up with my boyfriend. I didn't think of it as a win or loose thing, I thought of it as less pain for me that way.

I know how bad you must hurt right now. Just do what you can to keep busy and move on with your life. She is a jerk for rubbing this in your face, be thankful you found out how mean she could be now instead of later.

[coolguy05]

omg, its soo nice to have such careing people reply you have no idea! haha anyways..

ya what I did with the mustard was immature... I guess I just wanted to do ANYTHING I could to make her hurt, you know?

You say you had a hard time lilsister? I don't wish anyone pain, but its nice to know I'm not the only one who has gone through this! Ha, but yeah, she was never mean before, it just seems so amazing that she can do this. You just think you know them so well, better than anyone, then all of a sudden they do something completly unexpected like this. I never saw it comming. And ya, it wasn't just a break up, shes WITH someone else, and I suppose that just makes it harder? I'm not sure, but thank you everyone. You guys have NO idea how nice it is, when **** seems to really hit the fan to have like minded people reply to your woes of pain! lol!

I guess it bites me down too, just, without going into too much detail, she was also my first physically intimate partner, and it breaks me up knowing she can just do those things ( I don't know for sure she is doing them but I assume) and then go do them with someone else, while it took me much mentally to actually engage it, like I had to mentally go through my head "this is a serious girl you are with, its ok to do these things" only to have myself hurt in the end? Excuse me, I'm not just speaking of ual intimacies, I mean cuddling and just general close acts. Massages of the feet and back etc. It just cracks me down shes doing these things with someone else, and maybe its dumb, but I feel self concious, like I wasn;t good enough? I was boreing? Was I not physically attractive enough? Did I have nothing to offer? Was my personality dull? Though pain slowly subsides, I also feel like I'll have a hard time letting another person in. Not that thats so bad, but it bothers me that she is going to affect me down the road, and to me that bugs me becuz its like shes "affected" my future, and thats the last thing she should be doing to me... right? I feel like I should be in a relationship if shes in one, though deep down I know thats wrong, but i cannot help it. Gosh, it just bites down on you so much, so many memories, I dunno, I know anaylisising things over and over does nothing, and its pointless, but I just cannot help but wonder how she can throw so many memories away, I just cannot stop asking myself that. The effort relationships take, why just stop it? Not that you shouldn't date different people, you gotta see whats out there, but something that seems to be goign well and to just end it on a whim makes for question burdened on me with answers I may never find, and that too bugs me. I have so many questions I wanan ask her, yet when I see her my mind draws a blank. I just cannot stop asking myself why!!? arg!! haha anyways

thanks to everyone so much again, no idea how muchhhh I appreciate it.