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destiny214
05-09-2004, 01:16 AM
My bf of 3 months broke up w/me regarding an email i sent him. It's like this... one particular night i was gonna go w/him to Burbank to hang w/his friends. But later on i decied not to go but i would like to spend alone time w/him. He said he's tired. so i got upset and he said he's sorry adn he'll call me later. 2 days later i was still upset and i sent him an email telling him that if he's too tired how come he drove himself all the way to Burbank to be w/his friends and without thinking i said things like he doesn't value his time w/me and he doesn/t have energy for me like he does w/his friends. I sad things that i did not mean and he got mad about it. we talked a week later and he said it's better if we should just stay friends for now. I apologized for what i did. I even sent him flowers. He pretty much decided that we should build a frienship first and be able to trust him to open to him. Iwanted to work things out but he said this is the only way we could work it out. I don't agree w/him but i respect his decision. He said he was hurt about the email and he said that i could have told him personally instead of reading it. I know it was a bad judgement on my part but does it take that much to break up w/me? He said he cares about me and i can call him if i want to have lunch or dinner w/him. But i don't know.should we stay away from each other for now?and give it time? Help!

Skye
05-12-2004, 04:04 AM
Hi,

I'm sorry for your upset.

I'm not sure how old your bf is, however, he lacks emotional maturity. His reaction to your e-mail is not congruent with what you wrote.

If you can't work through arguments (together as a couple) how do you expect to deal with greater issues?

He walked away, you should do the same.

If he wanted you romantically, he would call and not want to remain friends.
I hope this helps. Good luck.

Skye
05-12-2004, 04:07 AM
"He said to call if I want to have dinner with him."

Are you kidding? Don't ever grovel to a man.

Go out and have fun with your friends. It's positive things are not bitter between you, however, you cannot remain "friends" with someone when you want him romantically.

This will only cause you more hurt in the end.

Heal, and take it one day at a time.