Well here we went again ;)

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[Diablo]

Families fight and I'm not exactly sure what happened from this post. Did your husband and son have a physical fight? Anyway, the 16 and 17 year olds will be on their own before too long. Hang in there.

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[Diablo]

He took all the stuff out of his room? Geez, my step-dad was abusive and never did anything like that. It indicates that something is eating at your husband. What is impossible to say, but a lot of guys take it out on the kids when there's something wrong that they won't talk about.

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[Diablo]

Nice pics! Not sure what to say about your situation. My dad would get wacko when drunk, but my mom divorced him when I was six. He would hang me upside down and horsewhip me with a switch. My step-dad was abusive too, but not as wacked out.

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Well that is all for now ;) off I go to dream land.

[Diablo]

G'night dear!

[eightball61]

My husband is wacko sometimes!

^^ This is part of the issue. You stated that your husband became abusive and there is no need for that. If he has temper/anger issues then he needs to seek a professional to sort things out. If he keeps going physco like this then your children will get sick of it and you'll see less of them when their out because of this man.

The other part of the issue is that your children are teenagers. Teens will be teens and they love to have independance. If they don't get a certain amount of freedom they want then they will let the parents know that. As Diablo stated though, you children are almost out and once they seek the real world then they will change. I remember my mom & sister always going at it when she was your daughters age but now they are the best of friends.

The best you can do as a mother is just continue that role. Sooner or latter your children will change. They will see what it was like to be a parent and then they will understand and become your best friend once again. It's all about time and patience. I am sure its not easy being a parent to a teen but the worst part is almost over.:)

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[eightball61]

My husband told me last night he is getting too old for the power struggles. I am too. :(


^^ & thats something that you both will need to work on "Together". You both can accomplish anything "together" but you both need to act like your in a marriage and then take it from there.


P.S.

You said "My kids are close to me" & I am having a hard time trying to understand this when you have mentioned countless times that they want to get out of that house :confused: . Now, are they close to you but want to leave because of him? If this is the case then shouldn't that draw a "red flag" about your husband..... :confused:

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but my husband goes WAY too far.


^^ & this is the point that I have been trying to make all along. It's your marriage and you know your position better than I so I am going to leave things be from this point. All I am trying to do is help you talk about your situation & maybe try to help.

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[eightball61]

You have a good approach but it's going to take the wanting & effort from the both of you. You both have got too settled into the marriage and the past problems are getting in the way from the happiness that's suppose to be there. The only way to fix things is to do it together or it stays like this.:rolleyes:

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[eightball61]

Anyway after so many years of trying to get things right I just need a break.


You will not get that break until you become stronger. You seem strong in words but when it boils down to reality this man weakens you. If you wanted this change or break then only you can make this reality happen. If you don't take that break then you are just allowing this all to happen to youself.

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[eightball61]

(eightball remember a sense of humor helps)

Again, I don't have a sense of humor to things like this. I see nothing to be joked about here and sorry for being dry & blunt. You know my thoughts though and I will carry on with that said.


ps
I did crack a smile earlier today watching Comedy Central. Really though, I do have a sense of humor but on boards like this it's hard to show humor on such serious topics.

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[eightball61]

Dang eightball you better get a sence of humor or this life will drag you down fast.

See this is where you don't know much about me. I am very pleased at where I am in my life. I have great family, friends online & off, my girlfriend, my career, ect. I have nothing bad to report about my life because I am happy where I am.

I am dry because many of the topics that these forums feature I don't find always find humorous. Many of the topics are serious and I take them in a serious manor. I will joke when the timing is right & if you search through the forums then you'll see that I am not that dry guy.

[Diablo]

Ya know the guy has a good side but he is so impatient with everything. I feel sorry for the guys that work with him. Yes we would need to do this together but he needs to see his part in it all and realize he over reacts to things.



Which he isn't likely to do unless he goes so far over the line that even he will be able to see it.

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[Diablo]

That's good to hear. You gonna take me out to eat when you get here?

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[Diablo]

I've got my stomach set on Italian food today for some reason. But I'm probably going to fix a lasagnia(sp?) tonight anyway.

[SALly]

Hmmmm lasagna....send some my way!

[Diablo]

Homemade lasagna, with a sauce from tomatoes and spices grown in my garden. I would grow everything I need for spaghetti sauce and lasagna, but I think the neighbors would get a little upset with me if I put a hogpen in the parking lot. :D

[SALly]

They might not mind if you gave them free lasagna! :p

[Diablo]

So how are you today Sally?

[SALly]

I'm crabby and witchy! You?

[Diablo]

Tired, hungry and irritable. Witchy's not a bad thing. Could you cast a spell on my banker to get him to screw up and move the decimal point on my account about eight places to the right?

[SALly]

OK done--- let me know if the spell worked....

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