unicornsale
05-16-2011, 03:01 AM
So I posted this question/story on yahoo.. but got few replies and they were not super helpful. So I thought I'd try here.
Last week Thursday I made the worst mistake in my entire life. If I could take back ONE thing, and I've done some pretty stupid things I'd take back this thing. Well, I was dating this guy secretly and for some reason he really wanted me to tell my parents [we've been dating for 13 months]. I've never told my parents about any one I have dated, so I was afraid and I didn't know what to do so I said no. So he said we should break up and then I stupidly said fine but we are deleting one another off everything and not calling or texting or talking to one another again. I only did that because with other guys, whether it was a boyfriend of just a friend, it was so easy to just kick them out of my life when I was done with them or they done with me. I thought this would be the same, I was so wrong, so very wrong. I don't miss the company, I can get company else where. I miss who he is, I miss him. I would tell my parents everything if he would just come back to me. I've tried texting him and emailing him and calling him [no one answers his home phone...]. He's blocked me on facebook. I can't just go to his house, he lives a few hours away and I am so broke. I don't know if I should give him more time and try again, or keep trying. And how much time should I give him? It's been a week and two days. Our last fight lasted 3 days. I just want him back in my life, I don't know what to do I don't care if he and I date again. I want him in my life.
If for some reason age matters, I'm 18, he's almost 19.
I'm scared he's given up on me... Also, the longest it has taken me to get over someone was 4 days and I was with that person for 2 years. I don't understand why it's so difficult this time! It's not like I sulk around the house, I go out, I keep myself busy but STILL with everything going on in my life, all I can think is how much I miss him. I've prayed, I've begged, I don't know what to do anymore.
A user on yahoo asked me to add details about the "fight" and if I knew how he felt so I responded with:
I know how he felt in a way, I feel that maybe he left some things out. I'll tell you more of the story: I was slightly mad at him because his female friend kissed him, he says he said no to her and I very well believe that, until his story changed slightly. So I knew he was lying about SOMETHING. I get it, his first "kiss" he must have some weird feelings for her and I wanted to talk about that all but he didn't and he wouldn't tell me anything about it. So I was upset about that. The next day he said maybe we should take a break and I asked that we talk why he suddenly wants to take a break and he was getting more open about what happened with the girl [he seemed to dislike her a lot] anyways, then he randomly brought up the whole needing to tell my parents thing because he feels like he isn't "here" and that my family needs to know because his does and then they could help with our relationship and I could stop sneaking and we could be out in the open about everything.
Also, I am fairly sure I need to give him space, so would waiting until the 25th of June be long enough? [Unless he contacts me of course]. We were planning on meeting on another finally but I was too busy and had to say no. Also, I only trust him because of all the proof he's given me that he isn't some creep, because if he was, he would've hit me up for a booty call a long time ago. I also use to talk to his sister every now and then, but she and I had a misunderstanding and she also will not talk to me anymore.
Any advice would be nice, I also know he may never talk to me again and that I will have to figure out how to get over it, but I'm trying to be positive here...
Last week Thursday I made the worst mistake in my entire life. If I could take back ONE thing, and I've done some pretty stupid things I'd take back this thing. Well, I was dating this guy secretly and for some reason he really wanted me to tell my parents [we've been dating for 13 months]. I've never told my parents about any one I have dated, so I was afraid and I didn't know what to do so I said no. So he said we should break up and then I stupidly said fine but we are deleting one another off everything and not calling or texting or talking to one another again. I only did that because with other guys, whether it was a boyfriend of just a friend, it was so easy to just kick them out of my life when I was done with them or they done with me. I thought this would be the same, I was so wrong, so very wrong. I don't miss the company, I can get company else where. I miss who he is, I miss him. I would tell my parents everything if he would just come back to me. I've tried texting him and emailing him and calling him [no one answers his home phone...]. He's blocked me on facebook. I can't just go to his house, he lives a few hours away and I am so broke. I don't know if I should give him more time and try again, or keep trying. And how much time should I give him? It's been a week and two days. Our last fight lasted 3 days. I just want him back in my life, I don't know what to do I don't care if he and I date again. I want him in my life.
If for some reason age matters, I'm 18, he's almost 19.
I'm scared he's given up on me... Also, the longest it has taken me to get over someone was 4 days and I was with that person for 2 years. I don't understand why it's so difficult this time! It's not like I sulk around the house, I go out, I keep myself busy but STILL with everything going on in my life, all I can think is how much I miss him. I've prayed, I've begged, I don't know what to do anymore.
A user on yahoo asked me to add details about the "fight" and if I knew how he felt so I responded with:
I know how he felt in a way, I feel that maybe he left some things out. I'll tell you more of the story: I was slightly mad at him because his female friend kissed him, he says he said no to her and I very well believe that, until his story changed slightly. So I knew he was lying about SOMETHING. I get it, his first "kiss" he must have some weird feelings for her and I wanted to talk about that all but he didn't and he wouldn't tell me anything about it. So I was upset about that. The next day he said maybe we should take a break and I asked that we talk why he suddenly wants to take a break and he was getting more open about what happened with the girl [he seemed to dislike her a lot] anyways, then he randomly brought up the whole needing to tell my parents thing because he feels like he isn't "here" and that my family needs to know because his does and then they could help with our relationship and I could stop sneaking and we could be out in the open about everything.
Also, I am fairly sure I need to give him space, so would waiting until the 25th of June be long enough? [Unless he contacts me of course]. We were planning on meeting on another finally but I was too busy and had to say no. Also, I only trust him because of all the proof he's given me that he isn't some creep, because if he was, he would've hit me up for a booty call a long time ago. I also use to talk to his sister every now and then, but she and I had a misunderstanding and she also will not talk to me anymore.
Any advice would be nice, I also know he may never talk to me again and that I will have to figure out how to get over it, but I'm trying to be positive here...