I need Relationship Help (been so depressed and sad)

[Kadaj]

Hi, I've been with my girlfriend for four months now, and she has been acting differently, please mind that we are still young (seniors in HS), but this has been really bothering me and I just don't know what to do anymore. First of all, when we first started dating, we spent a lot of time together and this was during the school year. Then during the summer, we hardly ever went out and she would ALWAYS want to play RO (an online game) I would play with her too but now it feels like all we did was RO. Well, moving on, during times from when we first started to go out until now we got into fights, but I would always take responsibility for it and we made up after a day or two. But this whole week, she just stopped calling me and stopped the sweet surprising things we always did (like surprised phone calls, or sweet talks) and had. I forgot to mention that she is leaving for a vacation on Wednesday, and we were planning to go shopping earlier on from this week, and the next day she totally ignores and avoids me. Then, when I kept asking her what’s wrong and what not, she would say “nothing let me be for a while”, but I was worried something happened so I kept pushing her (which now I regret) (I pushed and pushed because I really didn’t want her to leave on vacation on a bad note), but after a few tries I just stopped and played RO with her. The next day she goes online and asks me for a guys number and I get so mad when I find out since she’s leaving soon, I wanted to see her at least once before she left, instead she goes out with some friends (the guy was someone I knew) but I didn’t know other people were going yet so I was questioning her “are you going somewhere?” “why do you need his number?” etc. and she just blows up on me with these
“ (11:22:23 AM): just leave me alone
(11:22:27 AM): u cant even leave me alone
(11:22:32 AM): so i can have some room to myself
(11:22:34 AM): n for other ppl
(11:22:41 AM): all summer all ive been talkin to is UUUU!!!!!
(11:22:46 AM): everything UUU!!!!!!!!
(11:22:48 AM): no1 else
(11:23:02 AM): n i have to answer to u
(11:23:05 AM): about what im doing?!?!?!?!!
(11:25:17 AM): n ive asked u politely
(11:25:21 AM): to let me be
(11:25:23 AM): but NOOO
(11:25:26 AM): u still nag
(11:25:27 AM): u still
(11:25:29 AM): keep askin
Me (11:25:40 AM): i know but that was only because i thought something happened at home
(11:26:02 AM): u keep nagging
(11:26:07 AM): u wont even let me tell u
(11:26:11 AM): when i want to!!!!!!”

I left out what I said for it’s not important, well let me explain, first of all, I’m not forcing her to just talk to me… and I don’t force her to play RO, she plays herself. Also, i only questioned her about what she was doing because out of no way she asks for a guys number.... (wouldnt you question too?)This has really been killing me… I care so much for her; all I’ve been thinking about is her and only slept 6-7 hours in the last week. Well, I’ll leave this at that and see what replies I get…… Please help me, I love her and don’t want to give her up without a fight.

Thanks in advance

PS I've spoken to a few close friends about this and my brother said i shouldn't give up on her, one of my other close friends said that i should keep pushing her to show that i care and she said i shouldnt give up, and another close friend of mine said if it was him he would just break it, because he said that my gf is just taking advantage of me because i'm giving her 100%.

[SALly]

I think you need to just back off for a while. She is telling you to leave her alone...so do it.

[martin120db]

Sorry but you can not keep pressing her like that. She will tell you when she is ready if there is something going on. Friends are friends. give her the number and give her space. I think I would be concerned if the number that she wants is to a guy that could get her product or shit. But if it is just to hang out then I would not worry to much about it.

Dont smuther her.

If you have a relationship you should be able to talk about stuff, but dont asume that she will. at least not right away.

Respect her wishes and just give her the space she wants.

[eightball61]

she would say “nothing let me be for a while”,


It sucks that she won't tall about whats going. All you can do is leave her alone like she has requested. The last thing you want is to annoy her with your questions. I really do think that this relationship is over in her mind but she's too immature to face you. You should be the mature one and just break things off because you(nor anyone) deserves to get jerked around like this.

[teejaye18]

it can hurt for her to be dating you and then ask you for another guys phone number..if i were in this situation i would question it too. but if she is being this distant towards you it probably means that she isnt interested anymore and you should probably break it off now before it get any worse no one deserves to be treated like that. i myself went through this situation with my bf and i really wish i hadnt been so distant. i wish i would have been more talkative when he wanted to because in return i wanted to talk also but for some stupid reason i just didnt an now were are both really hurt so i would just break it off

[Kadaj]

Thanks for the replies, I forgot to mention that we knew each other for about 4 years now and our relationship kind of just happened, but with all thats happening, I guess I have no choice, even though I don't want to.... do you think i'm in denial (that in her mind the relationship already ended but she doesn't want to look bad about ending it herself)?

Well, if anything goes bad, i can count on my brother or close friends to help me get back on my feet.

[Kadaj]

omg.... you guys know that i said we were planning to go shopping, and she cancelled on me (just like all the other times i've tried to hang out) and i just found out from my close friend she went to a mall with that guy and "other people". That's like a sharp stabbing pain right through my heart right there....... what do i do now...?

[eightball61]

what do i do now...?

You can't do nothing but move on.....

She told you to leave her alone and that's the hint that she wants out of the relationship. It does sck to find these things out and it won't get any better if you keep digging like this.

You need to listen to us instead of ignoring the fact. It hurts but we are trying to help you see the reality of whats going on here. You came here for help so please open your mind and accept what we are telling you or the outcome could become worse for you.

[martin120db]

Sorry Man,

Its over. there is nothing you can do. just move on and what ever you do, do not hate all girls or women for what one rotten apple did to you. think of it this way, you got the bad one out of the bunch before if could spoil the rest of them.

Just make sure that you never smother any of them.

go and hang out with your friends

[teejaye18]

if she is thinkikng that the relationship has ended and she hasnt told you how she feels or hasnt told you that she has been thinking that way then thats not fair to you

[Mattey]

In the begining she was so infactuated with you that all she wanted was you (shows imaturity). But now she's realising that she left her friends and her life behind.

It may not be your fault but she does blame you for it. Theres not alot you can do.

Tell her that what she is doing really hurts, tell her you cant take anymore and tell her your taking a long break from her.

The hard part is actually staying away from her for a few weeks.