Dynamix
08-09-2005, 01:35 AM
Well I have been going out for 7 months with this woman I enjoy very much. But my future plans and hers don’t seem to match.
To be honest, I have dedicated the next six years to the Military, and her next four to college. I kind of talked a little about moving our relationship forward. But with the prevalent circumstances, we can’t move in as she leaves in a few weeks and I in a few months. Neither of us want to get married, until she is out of college for sure. Then afterward I want to get a government job in Law enforcement. That job would dictate where I would live and she already knows where she wants to work. So that’s another complication.
The advice I need to know is: Should I break up now and start looking for someone who has a more compatible future? On the other hand I’m not looking into getting married anytime soon, so should I stay with my current girlfriend?
If you think it the latter, I want to have a more direct conversation on our future without overwhelming her with talk of marriage? Should I just ask her about the subject or just chill and let things develop for the next few years?
The only thing that agitates me, would be letting this get drawn out and end up breaking up years from now.
To be honest, I have dedicated the next six years to the Military, and her next four to college. I kind of talked a little about moving our relationship forward. But with the prevalent circumstances, we can’t move in as she leaves in a few weeks and I in a few months. Neither of us want to get married, until she is out of college for sure. Then afterward I want to get a government job in Law enforcement. That job would dictate where I would live and she already knows where she wants to work. So that’s another complication.
The advice I need to know is: Should I break up now and start looking for someone who has a more compatible future? On the other hand I’m not looking into getting married anytime soon, so should I stay with my current girlfriend?
If you think it the latter, I want to have a more direct conversation on our future without overwhelming her with talk of marriage? Should I just ask her about the subject or just chill and let things develop for the next few years?
The only thing that agitates me, would be letting this get drawn out and end up breaking up years from now.