http://relationshipforums.com/forum/ Relationship Forums - Advice, Problems, Help en Fri, 10 Sep 2010 02:29:45 GMT vBulletin 60 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/images/misc/rss.jpg http://relationshipforums.com/forum/ http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6713&goto=newpost Mon, 06 Sep 2010 00:18:59 GMT The time of year you look forward to all year. Anyway, I imagine a lot of people are looking forward to football weather as much as football. My team makes your team look like s---. :D The time of year you look forward to all year. Anyway, I imagine a lot of people are looking forward to football weather as much as football. My team makes your team look like s---. :D ]]> General Chat Diablo http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6713 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6710&goto=newpost Sun, 05 Sep 2010 04:28:57 GMT Basically I'm about about to break up with girlfriend whom I've been with for a little over 9 months now. I'm doing so because she treats me horribly, Every person I've talked to says the same thing "dump her".
I was all ready to do it until I spent a long time thinking about it. Is it normal to have second thoughts? I KNOW she treats me like crap, but for whatever reason I can't help but think at some points "should I really go through with this?" Is this a normal thing? Whats your advice?
Thanks in advance. ]]> Break Up undead4life321 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6710 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6709&goto=newpost Sun, 05 Sep 2010 04:03:15 GMT In a nutshell I realized the person this girl really is on the inside. Everyone has seen for several months that this girl guilt trips me when I don't give her all of my time, gets mad at me when I don't give her my full attention when we are in groups. To give you an idea that its not only me, she has lost about 3 friends in the last month because of the snotty way she's acted and everyone is sick of it, including myself.
She claims to be suicidal right now, this my be because she knows the end is near or she truly is. This can't mean I shouldn't break up with her right?
Also *MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION* I have been planning this for a day or two now and I guess the 9 months is getting to me. Is it normal to feel uncertain that I should go though with this? That is really stressing me out. I don't know if thats just normal to feel that way because of the time and all that has happened, or if it means I don't really want to break up with her. I this didn't occur until I was at work thinking about it really hard.
Thanks for your help. Any words of encouragement would be much appreciated I'm supposed to do it in about 13-14 hours from now right before I begin my next work shift. ]]> Break Up undead4life321 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6709 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6708&goto=newpost Sun, 05 Sep 2010 03:19:24 GMT First of all, I am horrible at writing short messages about this sort of thing, so if you just want to go to the actual part of why I need some advice, scroll down to the ---- part and read from there. Little bit of background on me. I am 25, recently got out of a long term (4 year)... First of all, I am horrible at writing short messages about this sort of thing, so if you just want to go to the actual part of why I need some advice, scroll down to the ---- part and read from there.

Little bit of background on me. I am 25, recently got out of a long term (4 year) relationship about 6 months ago. The last 6 months, I have been an absolute animal. Out every weekend night, would find a new girl to take home 9/10 times and would never stay in touch with said girls after that night. Part of me wanted to just be a feeling-less rock that would run around, get what he wants and then move on to sort of get back at "women" as a whole due to the way my relationship had ended. Well, about 3-4 weeks ago I decided that this is not something I enjoy any more. I wanted to find another partner that I could come home to and enjoy just being around without having to be drunk. The area that I love in, this is an impossible task. Imagine a texas version of Jersey Shore, thats what I am caught in the middle of. It's all about getting trashed, hooking up and moving on. So after a few failed attempts at "dating" I was about to give up.

This is when I made a profile on a online dating site. I figured this would give me a chance to talk to a few women and see if there is any chemistry or a spark before actually going out with them. Talked to a few, took a couple out, always ended up the same way as it did with the girls that I met at bars. It was almost like I shut myself down when I was around them and I had no respect for them so I would just go after one thing.

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Here is where it gets good. I come across a complete bombshell on said website and send her a message not even expecting a response because she is "out of my league". I'm a confident guy and I know I can score with some hotties, but she was just way out there when it came to looks, she was stunning. Well, she responded and we started to chat but did not get to talk a whole lot as she was at work. The next day we were both off and we talked a bit online, a bit trough texts and then on the phone. She finally told me that she was horribly bored and asked me if I wanted to come over to -get this- drink a few beers and play video games!

About her - She is 29, stunning, intelligent and established. By this I mean she is the GM of a well established company, owns her own house, car, dogs, cats, the whole nine yards.

I hesitated a bit as I was in to her way more already than any other girl in the past few months but finally agreed. I went over there and we literally just hung out. We played games, watched stand up comedy and drank beer, just like you would with one of your buddies. I thought to myself that surely she just was not into me. At the end of the night, as I am walking out, she comes over and hugs me and I give her a little kiss on her forehead. She responds with "The fat girl kiss on the head? Really?". I am stumped and lost so I just grab her and plant my lips onto hers thinking that it will be a short kiss and she will push me away. We embrace for a little while and share what had to be one of the most passionate kisses I have ever had the pleasure of experiencing. I cant get her out my head for the entire day after and then she finally texts me to see how my day is going. After exchanging a few texts we decide to hang out again and grab a few drinks out this time.

I probe her a bit as she seemed uneasy about going out and I finally got it out of her that she would much rather just sit around the house, drink some vine and watch a movie with me than go to a bar. I make my way over there and when I get there, I give her some flowers and put the vine and beer I brought on the counter. She asks me if I am hungry (and I was) and then says lets go grab a bite. I tell her about my ways in the past few months as I want to open up to her, she smiles and says "well, it seems like youre trying to grow up!".

As were out, she sees how much I enjoy being out in a crowd and as we finish our meal, she orders us some of my favorite shots (how she remembered what they were after I had mentioned it for a second the day prior is beyond me). We down them, drink a few beers and head back.

The entire night we laid in bed together, embracing each other, cuddling, kissing but nothing more. I did not want to make a move toward more and I did not get any signals that she wanted more either.

This was last night. This morning she tells me how proud she is of me that I behaved in bed all night and how she didnt think I could do it. I responded with "I respect and like you too much for that, all in good time". Her face lit up, she kissed me and we parted ways.

We are meeting up yet again tomorrow (not even 24 hours after we parted ways the previous time) and I can NOT get her off my mind. We have been exchanging little cute texts all day long and she is just more and more incredible by the minute.

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Here is my issue. This is the first time EVER that I have been insecure about the way something is going. I'm no fool, I know all the signs are pointing to a great start and nothing has happened to make me think any differently. I am just unsure, she seems so damn perfect in every aspect, why is she going for a douchebag like myself? She knows my past, she knows about my womanizing ways, she knows how big of a *** I can be, yet she continues to want to spend as much time with me as possible. I can not make sense out of it.

Also, part of me thinks that I am being selfish. She is so incredible and I just know that there is somebody out there that has so much more to offer her than I do. I know she could be happier with another guy than she could with me as I honestly dont have a whole hell of a lot to give.

Why is she into me? Why does she continue to want to see me? Why does she take all this time out of her busy work day to initiate contact with me? Why does she reassure me when she sees that I start to become a little unsure as to how to approach her?

I'm simply lost here, haha.

Any word of advice or even a "Hey, youre a idiot, get a hold of yourself" will be read and taken to heart, so fire away, please! ]]> MV8525 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6708 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6707&goto=newpost Sun, 05 Sep 2010 00:28:08 GMT I am a male, 29years of age and i am confused between two huge decisions of my love life. About 5years ago (2005), i met this one girl Angie. That time we use to live in the same country. Right from the beginning we have had feelings for each other. But at that moment she had a boyfriend so i... I am a male, 29years of age and i am confused between two huge decisions of my love life.
About 5years ago (2005), i met this one girl Angie. That time we use to live in the same country. Right from the beginning we have had feelings for each other. But at that moment she had a boyfriend so i could not express my feelings to her as she might freak out or something. Then one day(2007) she had to leave & go back to her own country and we stayed in touch through mails & chats. And we became more closer by doing so.

Then i met another girl & we got into a relation(2007). In this relation we had plenty problems regarding whats wrong & right. She has a very controlling personality. I have had mentioned to her plenty times how i feel about how she is & told her she has to change. Time passed on, we struggled in our relation due to few reasons. We do not live together, we live in separate countries, just once a year she would come for visit & live with me. Then my girlfriend wanted to have a child. Being jobless at that time i was very hesitant about having a baby but somehow accidentally she got pregnant(2009). After getting pregnant we did went through few break ups & patch ups depending on her bossy mood. I faced her tantrums & her abuse (like throwing things at me, she threw my mobile at me which hit my head once). During all this time when she was away i reconnected with angie. I did not tell her about having a baby with this girlfriend. Coz for sure she will leave me.

Then after my girlfriend gave birth to my child and when she was 4months old. I went to meet my friend angie in her country(2010). We had no intentions to do it but we had drinks & spent a night together. My friend never asked me to leave my girlfriend, she is always concerned about the treatment i get from her. I do not wish to bad mouth my girlfriend but she is very hard to live with. Recently, angie & i started to feel more love for each other.

I just wish to seek some advice about what should i be doing?

If i stay with my girlfriend, it would be just because i have a daughter with her. Just for her sake i am sacrificing.

If i start my life with angie, then it would be taking a father away from a daughter.

I know she would not be the only one going through this. But sometimes i question myself how long can i live like this with her mother being so hard to live with, i have tried every method of dealing with her & living peacefully. Over & over again i have told her what i feel about her treatment towards me. Should i sacrifice my happiness for my daughter? or i should go with my heart and be with angie. ]]> Break Up seeker763 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6707 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6706&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 21:53:42 GMT I am a male, 29years of age and i am confused between two huge decisions of my love life. About 7years ago (2005), i met this one girl Angie. That time we use to live in the same country. Right from the beginning we have had feelings for each other. But at that moment she had a boyfriend so i... I am a male, 29years of age and i am confused between two huge decisions of my love life.
About 7years ago (2005), i met this one girl Angie. That time we use to live in the same country. Right from the beginning we have had feelings for each other. But at that moment she had a boyfriend so i could not express my feelings to her as she might freak out or something. Then one day(2007) she had to leave & go back to her own country and we stayed in touch through mails & chats. And we became more closer by doing so.

Then i met another girl & we got into a relation(2007). In this relation we had plenty problems regarding whats wrong & right. She has a very controlling personality. I have had mentioned to her plenty times how i feel about how she is & told her she has to change. Time passed on, we struggled in our relation due to few reasons. We do not live together, we live in separate countries, just once a year she would come for visit & live with me. Then my girlfriend wanted to have a child. Being jobless at that time i was very hesitant about having a baby but somehow accidentally she got pregnant(2009). After getting pregnant we did went through few break ups & patch ups depending on her bossy mood. I faced her tantrums & her abuse (like throwing things at me, she threw my mobile at me which hit my head once). During all this time when she was away i reconnected with angie. I did not tell her about having a baby with this girlfriend. Coz for sure she will leave me.

Then after my girlfriend gave birth to my child and when she was 4months old. I went to meet my friend angie in her country(2010). We had no intentions to do it but we had drinks & spent a night together. My friend never asked me to leave my girlfriend, she is always concerned about the treatment i get from her. I do not wish to bad mouth my girlfriend but she is very hard to live with. Recently, angie & i started to feel more love for each other.

I just wish to seek some advice about what should i be doing?

If i stay with my girlfriend, it would be just because i have a daughter with her. Just for her sake i am sacrificing.

If i start my life with angie, then it would be taking a father away from a daughter.

I know she would not be the only one going through this. But sometimes i question myself how long can i live like this with her mother being so hard to live with, i have tried every method of dealing with her & living peacefully. Over & over again i have told her what i feel about her treatment towards me. Should i sacrifice my happiness for my daughter? or i should go with my heart and be with angie. ]]> Break Up seeker763 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6706 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6705&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 21:40:21 GMT Story goes: We were together 5 years, last 2 years off and on very rocky. Broke up last november. Contact initiated by me last june. She has a new guy since last january. We fool around a few times and shes kind of torn about this, not sure if its right. I work on it a bit to stay in contact,... Story goes: We were together 5 years, last 2 years off and on very rocky. Broke up last november. Contact initiated by me last june. She has a new guy since last january. We fool around a few times and shes kind of torn about this, not sure if its right. I work on it a bit to stay in contact, sometimes she wouldn't speak to me for a week at a time, but July 16 we moved to different cities. Me Houston, her Dallas. She wants to be back with me but doesn't yet forgive me. Read this email she sent me August 10 AFTER telling me we should move on and go our seperate ways in a previous email sent August 3rd:


(This email was received Aug 10)
""""So, I need to release my thoughts somewhere. I don't expect a response, but I know what I've been missing.



I miss those overwhelming feelings - I can't really explain those feelings, but here's a start.



When I was with you, I felt like nothing could stop us. I felt that you and me together could take over the world. You sparked ideas in me and I did so for you, and I know it would just continue to grow. I�m not sure what that feeling was, but I felt like we were an indestructible and unstoppable force.



I also felt secure. I knew that if you told me to jump, I would do so because somehow you knew it was for the best. I know that if we had no money, you would think of some way to make sure I was taken care of. I also know that you would continue to do things to the best of your ability to make me smile.



I know that you would make me happy. We would continue to be adventurous, try new things, and although some new territories may be scary, we would help each other make it through.



There was only one important thing I didn't get from you. I didn't feel that I made you happy. I felt that being who I was made you stressed. I didn't ever feel that you were proud of me, so I continued to stress myself, change myself in order to make you happy and proud.



I do believe you have changed, and more importantly I know you would make me happy, but you're right... I still am not able to forgive, yet.



It�s sad because what I've found in my new relationship is that I make him proud, happy, and not stressed.



What I haven't found is that rush of overwhelming feelings & emotions, that excitement, the security, being able to trust someone with my most intimate ideas, thoughts, etc, being able to think and express thoughts freely, being an unstoppable force. I truly miss those feelings. I miss that high, that rush.



I hate this because I've gained one thing, but lost all of the rest.""""

After she sent me this I thought it was the door opening for me to push and get her back. But she wouldn't respond to my texts, emails or calls up until yesterday, Sept 3. So she left me hanging for a good 3 weeks until she finally called me back. We chatted casually, she's still with this other guy. I didn't bring up getting back together or anything, I didn't want to pressure her. She's going on a trip with this guy to Chicago next weekend.

I'd like some insight into this last email she sent me. Obviously she's very torn about what she wants. I think the best thing would be to wait it out, see if she contacts me on her own more often. But she's busy with a new job thats taking off quickly for her and probably doesn't allow herself to think about me too much.

I want to stay in her life somehow without pressuring her. I know if I can get us together face to face things would progress in my favor.

What to do? ]]> Couples jcording http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6705 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6703&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 20:41:48 GMT here's my story so bare with me:

me and my gf started dating at tough point in her life, her best friend had past away in a car accident, this was almost a year ago, i was there for her just like anyone else would. We ended up getting closer because of that. A few months into our relationship, i caught her in a pretty tough lie about some random phone call/txt during the night, i really dont think she would cheat on me, but it did raise an eyebrow, then again i caught her in another lie. So i began having that guard up you know? i felt somewhat insecure and i had to fly out to australia later in the summer for a business trip.

so heres where things start getting messy:

While im in australia she goes out to a party with her friends and meets a guy friend who she really likes as a friend and said she needs more people like him in her life, so i was happy for her because she has been depressed since her bestfriend died and not made any new friends since. But then i later found out she hung out with him alone the next day, and i brought this up to her and said i felt very uncomfortable because we left in bad terms so i dont think its right, im very insecure right now. She was okay with it. Few hours later i called her and she was on her way to a party with HIM, My heart literally dropped its as if she didnt care how i felt or heard anything from our 2 hour conversation on the phone about this GUY. When i tried to talk some sense into her she just laughed away, she went out that night regardless how i felt (lied about it, later found out), my emotions took over and i broke up with her the next day, might of been a bit excessive?, im miles away and i feel like shit oh great. (she lied after, hung out with him even after that, once again)

I come back home, we talk things out in person and she agreed she wouldnt speak to that GUY again, eventhough she insisted it was nothing more than a friendship, she said that now he a gf and insisted us to double later when i felt better about the situation. (i still couldnt get over all the lies from australia, i went thru her txts and found out she hung out again when i was out of town) RED FLAG!? right?. Sooooooo after all that she stopped talking to this GUY, 2 months pass our relationship was getting so much better i was happy once again....well turns out she has been talking to him 3-4 times a week behind my back since then, and she lives with me!

so i gave her this immature ultimatum:
its me or him?

So we argued for hours, felt more like days. I told her i couldn't take her lies anymore, i just couldn't i was very unhappy and miserable, no trust, she could have cheated on me?. She justified her actions by saying i was 'controlling'? i agreed, i am somewhat controlling, not because i wanted too but because i felt like i had too, she was a liar, if she didn't lie i wouldn't be so 'controlling'.

no compromise.
i kicked her out of my place....

am i wrong for being this way with her? please help.
I obviously have severe trust issues with her, but i love her. ]]> Couples Addison1 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6703 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6702&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 16:33:47 GMT I have a terribly complicated lovelife right now. I'm recently divorced and my exhusband and I had an open relationship. Regardless of what you may think about that, it wasn't the major issue that split us up.

What the problem is right now is the guy I had a friends with benefits relationship with has not been working out either and just today I had to finally say I can't see you at all for a while. Why? Because I'm in love with him. I have been for a long long time but he doesn't want a relationship from me. He doesn't know what he wants even though he claims he does. I apparently remind him too much of his exfiance which hurts because she was a total psycho.

I have emotional issues that I'm trying to work out in counseling, but it's a big step for me to say "I can't see you" when I'm in love with him. Not even as friends. I can't even date with my whole heart in it because I can't stop thinking about how I want to be with him. It has been driving me crazy for months and if I'm going to move on with my life I have to get away from him for a while.

He understood. He said I should do whatever I need to do because we can't be more than friends and he'll probably never change his mind. It just hurts so much to be in love with someone who doesn't love you the same way. I'm completely blinded by love and hurt I have to take him off my phone, social sites, IMs everything so I can put him out of my mind. ]]> Break Up orahlith http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6702 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6701&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 14:52:22 GMT A few months ago, I graduated college and took a job in another state. My wife said she was all for it... she could quit her job and do whatever she wanted. After a month of living in the new town, we found out we were pregnant. I was excited, my wife was scared. After a few weeks, I came home to a... A few months ago, I graduated college and took a job in another state. My wife said she was all for it... she could quit her job and do whatever she wanted. After a month of living in the new town, we found out we were pregnant. I was excited, my wife was scared. After a few weeks, I came home to a wife all packed up saying she was moving in with her folks 5 hours away. So she left with her, my soon to be baby, and the DOG! She then left me with the ultimatum... "if you want to live with me, you have to move back here!" So... my options:

1. Quit job and move in with my wife's parents (giving up everything I worked hard for in the military and college).
2. Keep my job and lose my wife, baby, and dog.

I insisted she start seeing a counselor, luckily she did and has been diagnosed with disthymia (spelling?), ie - chronic depression. I was seeing a counselor also, and was told that if I quit and move back there, I am promoting this condition (just as her parents are now) and would just make it worse. Who is acting irrationally in this? What would you do? ]]> Marriage LeftBehind2 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6701 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6700&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 13:25:01 GMT Ok so I had this issue posted on another site but never received much help so i figured i would try here, so heres the whole breakdown of what was posted on the other site:

Ok so my girl friend of 3 years and I broke up about 4 months ago. We haven't talked aside from a couple emails I had written her. Anyway, we were at a friends party on Saturday which was also the first time we had been around each other since the break up. She wouldn't make eye contact With me at first probably because she didn't know what to expect but after a bit she realized things were ok and we talked and joked around and she said she would readd me to facebook and msn. Later that night we got talking about my daughter and decided to go to another room to discuss it. We talked for hours about my daughter and us and how we felt etc. It was a good talk from what i remember as there was alcohol invloved Then ended up having sex. The next morning we woke up and she didn't remember a whole lot. But stuff was slowly coming back to her. Anyways we left together and drove to my house where she came in to pick up some old stuff and see the kitty lol we talked for a few mins but I had to go to work so she left. So that was Saturday. It's now thurs and I was thinking about calling her tonight to see if she wanted to discuss what had happened. But I don't know what to expect. She believes the truth comes out with drinking so that might work to show she still cares about me. Any advice ? Should we talk about feelings or just talk abit and state we should just hang out and see where it goes. ( we were like best friends when we were together )

Thanks in advance.


So someone suggested I message her asking her if she was ok with what had happened and to tell her i care about her. Which i Did, as seen below:

"So I texted her saying: Hi Name, I was just wondering how your doing and if you were ok with what happened Saturday night. You know I care about you alot and just wanna make sure you are ok. Then I said feel free to message me anytime."

Ok so she wrote back, this is what she said: I'm ok, in retrospect it wasn't that surprising really. Emotions and alcohol were running high that night for everyone and it was the first time we were together in months. Don't worry about it.

Then I replied back; Well I'm not worried about it. I was glad we had a chance to talk and Would really like to continue talking as friends, like we talked about earlier on that night.

And she replied: Yeah, i don't remember a whole lot of our talk to be honest, I'm not sure to what extent the friend discussion went or what was proposed we do.

So I was thinking about replying with this but I'm not sure if it's a bit too much:

We actually had a really good talk. It's a shame that you don't remember much of it. And to tell the truth I'm a little hazie about some of it as well but we both opened up and alot was said, and obviously it progressed to the point that it did. Im not sure how much of that was just drunk talk, but i know you believe the truth comes out when your drunk so I'm assuming there was some real feelings mixed in there.

The friendship stuff was actually a little earlier on just like how you would re-add me to Facebook and msn and that I could give you a hand with your pc etc. Just like chatting online and hanging out again in time.

In any case I'm not assuming that after one night we would work everything out, and if you wanted to discuss things about that night further that's fine with me. But I would be happy to have my friend back at this point.



LOL i know that was alot to read but ANY advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thnak you ]]> Break Up nispel http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6700 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6699&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 10:14:17 GMT Hey
I'm new and really need some advice!
Sorry this is going to be a long one!!

I've been with my bf for 4yrs, I love him but can't cope with things for much longer. I'm 24 but mature for my age and he's 34 but the age gap isn't a problem. We argue, he says I'm not the same and nor is he but he gets very angry now and he used to be very calm. Please help!!
Everything was fine until we got engaged, which is almost 3 years ago. There were a few problems with his parents but now things are getting worse and I have no one to talk to. Soon after getting engaged I found out I was pregnant, which was fantastic! I had a very difficult pregnancy, spent last 3 months on my own apart from evenings as I was unable to walk, I was terrified of the birth but wonderfully calm and collected when it happened. After the birth I suffered with anxiety triggered by his mother. Shortly after emergency c section, bf's mother wanted to hold our son but nearly dropped him!!!!! Thats when it started.
A few weeks after giving birth I discovered bf was txtin another woman asking to meet and have sex :eek: After confronting him, obviously it was my fault, he felt left out but it was me who had an emergency c section and was struggling at home with no support network. I forgave bf but asked him to txt the woman and tell her he was sorry and ask her to have no more contact, he told me he didn't want to hurt her feelings!!! :eek: What about mine!!! :mad:
Things went from bad to worse with my anxiety (worried things would happen to our son, didn't like to be away from my son). Bf's mother is a very big problem and we argue about her all the time. She trys to take over and calls herself mum to our son, any rules we have she ignores and it drives me crazy! When he was 6 weeks she tried to feed him peanuts because she said it wouldn't hurt!! If you don't let her do what she wants she has a tantrum and cries! She knows exactly what she is doing and has said as much privately to me but to everyone else she blames her depression. Bf's dad ignores it, bf doesn't deal with it and it's making me worse even though i've had treatment.
Thats how things have been for the last 2 years. Nothing has improved with his parents, it's actually gotten worse. Bf has developed a nasty temper and is vicious, he has never been like this before, he's usually so calm and understanding. He can snap if I say the wrong thing or I haven't put the washing on, just simple things.
I don't know what to do, I'm so depressed and lonely, he makes me feel crazy and unloved, I'm begining to wonder if anyone would miss me. Not sure he would.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Thank you x ]]> Couples mookant http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6699 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6698&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 10:06:13 GMT Hey
I'm new and really need some advice!
Sorry this is going to be a long one!!

I've been with my bf for 4yrs, I love him but can't cope with things for much longer. I'm 24 but mature for my age and he's 34 but the age gap isn't a problem. We argue, he says I'm not the same and nor is he but he gets very angry now and he used to be very calm. Please help!!
Everything was fine until we got engaged, which is almost 3 years ago. There were a few problems with his parents but now things are getting worse and I have no one to talk to. Soon after getting engaged I found out I was pregnant, which was fantastic! I had a very difficult pregnancy, spent last 3 months on my own apart from evenings as I was unable to walk, I was terrified of the birth but wonderfully calm and collected when it happened. After the birth I suffered with anxiety triggered by his mother. Shortly after emergency c section, bf's mother wanted to hold our son but nearly dropped him!!!!! Thats when it started.
A few weeks after giving birth I discovered bf was txtin another woman asking to meet and have sex :eek: After confronting him, obviously it was my fault, he felt left out but it was me who had an emergency c section and was struggling at home with no support network. I forgave bf but asked him to txt the woman and tell her he was sorry and ask her to have no more contact, he told me he didn't want to hurt her feelings!!! :eek: What about mine!!! :mad:
Things went from bad to worse with my anxiety (worried things would happen to our son, didn't like to be away from my son). Bf's mother is a very big problem and we argue about her all the time. She trys to take over and calls herself mum to our son, any rules we have she ignores and it drives me crazy! When he was 6 weeks she tried to feed him peanuts because she said it wouldn't hurt!! If you don't let her do what she wants she has a tantrum and cries! She knows exactly what she is doing and has said as much privately to me but to everyone else she blames her depression. Bf's dad ignores it, bf doesn't deal with it and it's making me worse even though i've had treatment.
Thats how things have been for the last 2 years. Nothing has improved with his parents, it's actually gotten worse. Bf has developed a nasty temper and is vicious, he has never been like this before, he's usually so calm and understanding. He can snap if I say the wrong thing or I haven't put the washing on, just simple things.
I don't know what to do, I'm so depressed and lonely, he makes me feel crazy and unloved, I'm begining to wonder if anyone would miss me. Not sure he would.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Thank you x ]]> Couples mookant http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6698 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6697&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 07:40:29 GMT Hello Everyone! :) I wanted to introduce myself. I run a blog about relationships and I thought it’ll be great to share my thoughts with everyone. I’ve noticed that everybody is very supportive to one another and that’s something that you don’t see very often on the internet. I’ll be looking... Hello Everyone! :)

I wanted to introduce myself. I run a blog about relationships and I thought it’ll be great to share my thoughts with everyone.
I’ve noticed that everybody is very supportive to one another and that’s something that you don’t see very often on the internet.
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-Rose and Tulip- ]]> Introduce Yourself Rose and Tulip http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6697 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6696&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 01:45:33 GMT I need advice on a current relationship. We've been together for a year and half and its been a very rocky relationship for awhile now. She's cheated on me almost a year ago and I still feel like I can't trust her and I don't know if I ever can. I'm always questioning everything she says. I feel like I'm losing my mind. We fight everyday. I am completely in love with her but I feel like I can no longer be in this situation. How do u let go of someone who you love so much. I can't express to anyone how much I love her. Even though she has betrayed me and made me feel worthless I still love her with all of my heart. Recently I just found out her family hates me. Especially her mom bc she says I'm not good and we fight too much. She just never knew why we fought and why I didn't trust her. Is it wrong to feel like I'm a bad person? She says I treat her like garbage and if I can't trust her then she needs to move on. She's constantly making me feel low. Always looking at guys. I've always felt like I was unattractive to her and by her looking at other guys and making me feel low isn't helping the situation. I'm at a dead end and I don't know who or where to turn to. I love her so much but I don't know if I should let go. How do or when will I know if letting go is the best choice? I planned on being together for the rest of my life. I believe in my heart we were meant to be together but why do we fight so damn much? Why do we say the most hurtful things to each other. We break up constantly. Get baclk together and do it all over again. Sometimes I feel like she's just with me bc she doesn't wanna leave me and hurt me. We recently just had a 3 some :( and the way she was acting broke my heart into a million pieces. It was another guy and she was soooo excited. She wanted it so bad. She wanted to do it with guys that look nothing like me and are more of her type. It makes me feel like garbage and I honestly feel like ill never be good enuff. I don't know what to do nemore. I rly don't. I need advice. From anyone please. Just a little insight would be appreciated bc I have no one to talk to but my own thoughts and emotions. I'm scared this relationship is falling apart....plz help :( ]]> Couples runaway2010 http://relationshipforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6696