Crazy About Woman At Work - Help

SeanLawson47 · 01-12-2010, 08:27 PM

Hi everyone

I am not sure how to approach this but it's driving me mad, I am a head of service for local government and have worked there for a good 10 years. One of my female colleagues who I do not work directly with, nor in the same area, but I am her head of service, I am crazy about. She is a lovable character and is very popular in the department. I think she likes me as I can sense this but she is very discreet. The problem is when I do see her I almost clam up and find it very difficult to relax, she is very composed though she does blush sometimes. I think she may sense I like her too as I have complimented her on her outfit when she wears this sexy suit I like. When she first wore it I almost got an erection. When she calls by my office to say goodbye on her way out (by the way my office is out of her way) I just want to get up and kiss her, I cant do this at work. There was a time when she was showing me something on the computer (she's a whizz with technology) when her hand accidently brushed the inside of my knee, I just wanted to move her hand somewhere else, I was getting harder as she spoke and I could smell her perfume, I had never been this close to her. Afterwards I nearly passed out and had to go in the bathroom, now when I see her I blush like hell cause I am so afraid of getting an erection. Although she is now single, I am not, I am still married unhappily and am in the process of a split. I promise you I am not on the rebound, I have always felt like this about this woman, for years now. My wife is older than me and is very much like the headmistress that she is, where as this woman I am in love with is genuine, down to earth, younger than me by 5 years and is way more on my wave length.

How the hell can I get together with her without being clumsily obvious and make a prat of myself, I have to watch things like emailing and consider her colleagues as I am head of service I wouldnt want them teasing her for seeing me.

Sorry this is long.

Kind regards, Sean

eightball61 · 01-15-2010, 02:40 AM

Work and relationships just dont work out however if you feel th urge this could work as you better know the situation then giv e a go but my advice is to try find love outside the work place.

LimaBean · 01-15-2010, 03:56 AM

I really do think that you should wait until the divorce is final before moving on to this woman and taking things further. you can just be friends for now. it's better if people wait a little longer anyway before making advaces beyond friendship. since this is a work situation, it is even better that you wait. who makes the rules for office dating ? is it allowed ?

so far, from what you describe, she seems to like you or think you are pleasant to be around. Just try to relax.

SeanLawson47 · 01-18-2010, 04:22 PM

Hi, thank you for your advice, LimaBeam you are right, I won't rush into anything, we do not work together, in fact we are completely opposite sides of a very large building so it would not be forbidden, if we were in the same office we would simply be moved to another office away from each other but it would not effect the work. We are both mature and strong believers in taking our work seriously, once the divorce is sorted and things have settled I can move on, I think she likes me too so the occasional lunch and drink wont harm.

Thank you.

Sean.

SeanLawson47 · 01-21-2010, 01:04 PM

Hi, thank you, we do not have any hard and fast rules as regards people in the workforce dating, would be more of a problem if they worked in the same office, since myself and this sweet lady do not, there should not be any issues, the building is very big and we are at opposite ends and do not work together. If anyone did date in the same office and it became serious, one of them would simply be moved to a different area.

I wont do anything rash, as I do not want to be too forceful, maybe a lunch date, occasional drink and like you say, a friendship and wait a while. All sounds a good idea to me and I am sure she would feel the same.

I have noticed she is very thoughtful towards me, if she is passing and see's me busy she will not interrupt (some people do), and when ever she brings cakes, chocolates or biscuits in for the office she always asks me to come along and help myself. The other day she put 4 quality streets on my desk with a little note which I thought was really sweet and thanked her, again I blushed and fumbled, when I saw her in town at lunchtime she gazed at me and went wobbly herself. She is also playing very cool :-)

SeanLawson47 · 05-03-2010, 06:34 PM

We are now together, everything ok and going good x

01-12-2010, 08:27 PM	#1
SeanLawson47 Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Warwickshire Posts: 9	Crazy About Woman At Work - Help Hi everyone I am not sure how to approach this but it's driving me mad, I am a head of service for local government and have worked there for a good 10 years. One of my female colleagues who I do not work directly with, nor in the same area, but I am her head of service, I am crazy about. She is a lovable character and is very popular in the department. I think she likes me as I can sense this but she is very discreet. The problem is when I do see her I almost clam up and find it very difficult to relax, she is very composed though she does blush sometimes. I think she may sense I like her too as I have complimented her on her outfit when she wears this sexy suit I like. When she first wore it I almost got an erection. When she calls by my office to say goodbye on her way out (by the way my office is out of her way) I just want to get up and kiss her, I cant do this at work. There was a time when she was showing me something on the computer (she's a whizz with technology) when her hand accidently brushed the inside of my knee, I just wanted to move her hand somewhere else, I was getting harder as she spoke and I could smell her perfume, I had never been this close to her. Afterwards I nearly passed out and had to go in the bathroom, now when I see her I blush like hell cause I am so afraid of getting an erection. Although she is now single, I am not, I am still married unhappily and am in the process of a split. I promise you I am not on the rebound, I have always felt like this about this woman, for years now. My wife is older than me and is very much like the headmistress that she is, where as this woman I am in love with is genuine, down to earth, younger than me by 5 years and is way more on my wave length. How the hell can I get together with her without being clumsily obvious and make a prat of myself, I have to watch things like emailing and consider her colleagues as I am head of service I wouldnt want them teasing her for seeing me. Sorry this is long. Kind regards, Sean

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01-15-2010, 02:40 AM	#2
eightball61 Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: USA Posts: 7,534	Work and relationships just dont work out however if you feel th urge this could work as you better know the situation then giv e a go but my advice is to try find love outside the work place.

01-15-2010, 03:56 AM	#3
LimaBean Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Diego Posts: 9	I really do think that you should wait until the divorce is final before moving on to this woman and taking things further. you can just be friends for now. it's better if people wait a little longer anyway before making advaces beyond friendship. since this is a work situation, it is even better that you wait. who makes the rules for office dating ? is it allowed ? so far, from what you describe, she seems to like you or think you are pleasant to be around. Just try to relax.

01-18-2010, 04:22 PM	#4
SeanLawson47 Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Warwickshire Posts: 9	Hi, thank you for your advice, LimaBeam you are right, I won't rush into anything, we do not work together, in fact we are completely opposite sides of a very large building so it would not be forbidden, if we were in the same office we would simply be moved to another office away from each other but it would not effect the work. We are both mature and strong believers in taking our work seriously, once the divorce is sorted and things have settled I can move on, I think she likes me too so the occasional lunch and drink wont harm. Thank you. Sean.

01-21-2010, 01:04 PM	#5
SeanLawson47 Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Warwickshire Posts: 9	Hi, thank you, we do not have any hard and fast rules as regards people in the workforce dating, would be more of a problem if they worked in the same office, since myself and this sweet lady do not, there should not be any issues, the building is very big and we are at opposite ends and do not work together. If anyone did date in the same office and it became serious, one of them would simply be moved to a different area. I wont do anything rash, as I do not want to be too forceful, maybe a lunch date, occasional drink and like you say, a friendship and wait a while. All sounds a good idea to me and I am sure she would feel the same. I have noticed she is very thoughtful towards me, if she is passing and see's me busy she will not interrupt (some people do), and when ever she brings cakes, chocolates or biscuits in for the office she always asks me to come along and help myself. The other day she put 4 quality streets on my desk with a little note which I thought was really sweet and thanked her, again I blushed and fumbled, when I saw her in town at lunchtime she gazed at me and went wobbly herself. She is also playing very cool :-)

05-03-2010, 06:34 PM	#6
SeanLawson47 Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Warwickshire Posts: 9	We are now together, everything ok and going good x