How do i get over the fact that no guy is perfect?

springleigh · 02-05-2010, 02:54 AM

Everytime I like someone, which isn't that often, I end up being disappointed. I've only had feelings for three people in my entire life. a year ago I met someone who I instantly crushed over, but I figured he was a prep/jock and ended up forgetting about the whole thing. until I found out he was the one crushing over me as well. Since then I had always felt something whenever I saw him.

Then my mom introduced me to someone she works with and I thought he was something. i didn't feel anything really, other than the need for companionship and the thought that he was mature and a gentleman. He wasn't.

Now the feelings for the other guy have resurfaced and I'm scared but at the same time it makes me happy and I don't know why. Everytime I see him I get butterflies and my heart beats really fast. We make eye contact all the time and i can't help but smile.

He's a good guy from what i hear off the grapevine. He doesn't smoke, doesn't do drugs, no alcohol, none of the serious stuff that many other people do these days. But the group he hangs out with likes to get into trouble.

this worries the crap out of me and I know it's silly but i want something good in my life right now. not someone who will pull me over to the bad side. I'm what you'd call a "good girl" and I've never done anything 'bad' in my life. I don't want to start now, my last 4 months of high school.

I know im young and I have my whole life ahead of me, but this guy makes me feel things that i've never felt for anyone else.

Any advice on what to do about this? Or any advice on how to be ok with the fact that no guy will ever be perfect?

smackie9 · 02-07-2010, 09:33 PM

That's what dating is all about....you have to kick a lot of tires, kiss a lot of frogs to find the right one.

eightball61 · 02-08-2010, 07:24 PM

You need someone like him...you need to get out, enjoy, and experiement. Be brave and ask the lad out. If no then go ask another its not the end of the world.

Rich · 02-09-2010, 11:16 AM

Just as a side note, you need to move past the stigma that no guy is perfect. That fact is true. But the greater truth is that no female is perfect either. There are NO perfect people here on earth and the quicker that you can accept that, then the quicker you can adjust your expectations and possibly have a guy meet them.

Perfection exists in God and that's pretty much it.

Look for someone that most aligns to your personality and who you align to theirs. That's the key. You look for the closest fit and then both work to keep making it better.

There's no perfection. There's no fairy tales.

Howard · 02-09-2010, 08:51 PM

guy or girl they will have their flaws,you just have to accept it the way they are,nobody's perfect.

smackie9 · 02-09-2010, 09:48 PM

Girl you need to let your hair down and throw caution into the wind. Life is to short to keep in line.......taking risks makes life exciting and worth living. I am a long time survivor of some pretty will times...and there ain't nothing I have regreted doing except I wish I did more....

02-05-2010, 02:54 AM	#1
springleigh Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Maine Posts: 4	How do i get over the fact that no guy is perfect? Everytime I like someone, which isn't that often, I end up being disappointed. I've only had feelings for three people in my entire life. a year ago I met someone who I instantly crushed over, but I figured he was a prep/jock and ended up forgetting about the whole thing. until I found out he was the one crushing over me as well. Since then I had always felt something whenever I saw him. Then my mom introduced me to someone she works with and I thought he was something. i didn't feel anything really, other than the need for companionship and the thought that he was mature and a gentleman. He wasn't. Now the feelings for the other guy have resurfaced and I'm scared but at the same time it makes me happy and I don't know why. Everytime I see him I get butterflies and my heart beats really fast. We make eye contact all the time and i can't help but smile. He's a good guy from what i hear off the grapevine. He doesn't smoke, doesn't do drugs, no alcohol, none of the serious stuff that many other people do these days. But the group he hangs out with likes to get into trouble. this worries the crap out of me and I know it's silly but i want something good in my life right now. not someone who will pull me over to the bad side. I'm what you'd call a "good girl" and I've never done anything 'bad' in my life. I don't want to start now, my last 4 months of high school. I know im young and I have my whole life ahead of me, but this guy makes me feel things that i've never felt for anyone else. Any advice on what to do about this? Or any advice on how to be ok with the fact that no guy will ever be perfect?

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02-07-2010, 09:33 PM	#2
smackie9 Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: British Columbia, Canada the best place on earth! Posts: 3,251	That's what dating is all about....you have to kick a lot of tires, kiss a lot of frogs to find the right one.

02-08-2010, 07:24 PM	#3
eightball61 Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: USA Posts: 7,534	You need someone like him...you need to get out, enjoy, and experiement. Be brave and ask the lad out. If no then go ask another its not the end of the world.

02-09-2010, 11:16 AM	#4
Rich Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 2,565	Just as a side note, you need to move past the stigma that no guy is perfect. That fact is true. But the greater truth is that no female is perfect either. There are NO perfect people here on earth and the quicker that you can accept that, then the quicker you can adjust your expectations and possibly have a guy meet them. Perfection exists in God and that's pretty much it. Look for someone that most aligns to your personality and who you align to theirs. That's the key. You look for the closest fit and then both work to keep making it better. There's no perfection. There's no fairy tales.

02-09-2010, 08:51 PM	#5
Howard Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: New York City,Queens Posts: 6,779	guy or girl they will have their flaws,you just have to accept it the way they are,nobody's perfect.

02-09-2010, 09:48 PM	#6
smackie9 Relationship Forums Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: British Columbia, Canada the best place on earth! Posts: 3,251	Girl you need to let your hair down and throw caution into the wind. Life is to short to keep in line.......taking risks makes life exciting and worth living. I am a long time survivor of some pretty will times...and there ain't nothing I have regreted doing except I wish I did more....